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How to Stop Overreacting


Do you fly off the handle for “no reason”? Have you been accused of being “hot-headed”? When the emotional intensity and severity of your behavior doesn’t match the situation at hand, you are overreacting.

There are two kinds of overreactions: external and internal. External overreactions are visible responses that others can see (for example, lashing out in anger, throwing your hands up and walking away from a situation).  Internal overreactions are emotional responses that remain inside of you that others may or may not be aware of.  Examples of internal overreactions are replaying a situation over and over in your head, wondering if you said the right thing, or overanalyzing a comment made by a friend or loved one.

In her book Stop Overreacting: Effective Strategies for Calming Your Emotions, author Dr. Judith P. Siegel suggests asking yourself the following questions to assess whether you have a problem with overreacting.

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How to Stop Overreacting

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  1. Thank you for this article – I certainly overreact to many situations and I do so inwardly.

    The trouble I have is when it comes to “putting a positive spin on things”. I do try to do this, but it’s not effective for me because I’m aware that I’m just making assumptions about the situation, just as reacting with cognitive distortions is. Unless I have proof of any of the positive angles I try to put on a situation, I don’t believe them and fall back to my default automatic negative thoughts.

    How can I stop this pattern of thinking? I did CBT for 4 years with an individual T and I still overreact to many situations to the point where it is really depressing me.

  2. good article

  3. I sometimes catch myself having overreacted after it’s happened. In those situations a apology is warranted and given.

  4. To be honest, I think this is bs because when you are actually angry this stuff is hard to remember….. You just lash out, it’s like a reflex action

    • I wouldn’t say it’s bs because no matter what the situation, we av control over our thoughts. Wether or not we CHOSE to take control is on us as an individual. Stuff will happen, the question is how will we choose to respond. This article gave me a lit to think about and actually answered for me what I have been choosing to do in overreacting. Thank you for the tools to change the way I have been doing things and make my life and those close to me lives better.

    • I wouldn’t say it’s bs because no matter what the situation, we av control over our thoughts. Whether or not we CHOSE to take control is on us as an individual. Stuff will happen, the question is how will we choose to respond. This article gave me a lit to think about and actually answered for me what I have been choosing to do in overreacting. Thank you for the tools to change the way I have been doing things and make my life and those close to me lives better.

  5. Very balanced, intelligent advice. Following this will avoid much heartache.

 

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