Lately, I’ve been honing in on the notion that you can’t expect others to save you, you have to save yourself. First.
I tend to think that sometimes people walk into relationships that ultimately fill a void. They look to the other person to give them something that they cannot give to themselves, such as a sense of security.
Sometimes we don’t even realize that we may be in the middle of acquiring a safety net. The realization that someone else is doing the saving may be romanticized (think about the enchantment of being “rescued”). But if you don’t do the work and confront yourself what needs to be confronted, you’ll never really be able to learn those lessons and move forward.
This “saving mindset” was demonstrated in one of the more recent episodes of the HBO series “Girls.”