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Before You Tie the Knot, Ask These 5 Questions


Moving from casual dating to a serious relationship to the final stage — getting married — is a gradual process for most people. Unlike the whirlwind marriages we read about in romance novels, for most couples it’s not a decision made quickly or lightly. Nor should it be — if one is serious about making a marriage last.

But dating someone — even being engaged to them — is a lot different than marriage itself. Suddenly you’re not just sharing your lives together in the most intimate manner possible, you’re also sharing a lot of other things you may not have counted on.

So before you tie the knot, you may find it helpful to ask these five questions.

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Before You Tie the Knot, Ask These 5 Questions

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  1. Often the worst people to marry are the ones who answer all your questions in all the right ways. The only way to sort them out is to be with them long enough… talking months and years, not days or weeks. A glaring red flag is when they don’t want to give you the time you need. They pressure you to move faster in the relationship than you feel comfortable. The reason? They don’t want you to find out the real them… their sometimes abusive and usually irresponsible past. Don’t take their word at face value. Find out if they are marriage material by their actions over time… how they interact with and treat their family members, how honest and open they are about their financial history and other parts of their past. Does what they told you in the “honeymoon” phase of the relationship jibe?

  2. I would ask : ” What are the three most important things for you?

 

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