It can be uncomfortable to talk honestly about our own relationship with sex. It can be uncomfortable to even think honestly about our own relationship with sex.
As result, while many of us have developed into healthy adults in our careers and in our roles as parents or friends, we are stuck when it comes to sex.
Contemplating the idea of entering into our own sexual minds can cause fear and anxiety. There is religious, cultural, and familial judgment and persecution for being direct and honest about sex. There can be fear of facing parts of ourselves that we don’t understand and fear of exposing things about ourselves that feel wrong or shameful. There is understandable reluctance about going back into painful or upsetting sexual experiences from our past.
There is also a natural aversion to looking directly at our own sex lives.
So how can you be more grownup when thinking about your sexuality?
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This article hits it right on the nail.
Unfortunately, many people do not start to examine their attitudes and relationship to sex until they start experiencing sexual dysfunction, and at that point there are so many different feelings coming up.
I hope that there is more discussion about sex for young people that isn’t just about having safe sex. As long as that is the main message, an important opportunity is missed in helping people develop a healthy relationship with their bodies and feel comfortable in their entire being. In turn, they will grow up feeling more empowered when it comes to how they function sexually and how they judge its role in their lives.
Rachel Hercman
Medical Center for Female Sexuality, NY NY