The everyday — filled with its supposedly inconsequential interactions and circumstances — is actually quite consequential when it comes to romantic relationships.
That’s because relationships are cumulative, said Nikki Massey-Hastings, Psy.D, a psychotherapist who specializes in couples. “Each seemingly insignificant daily interaction with one’s partner builds upon the interactions from yesterday, last week, and last year… for better or worse.”
A couple with a history of loving interactions and success solving daily problems is more likely to have a securely attached relationship, Massey-Hastings said.
And that’s a great thing. Couples with a secure attachment are able to rely on each other, turn to each other for comfort and traverse potentially tough times, she noted.
In other words, positive daily interactions create buffers against future challenges.
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This really annoyed me because I came to it from the email link which said it was about how to enhance your relationships. It didn’t say it was about being a couple. I thought it would be good to look at to enhance my friendships and other relationships with people, but the use of the word relationship to mean couple is very depressing. There are other relationships, you know! I was expecting a helpful article, but no – apparently you only have a relationship if you’re part of a romantic couple.
Number 1 happened to us just recently. For years we have the same work schedule but a few months ago, he started working during the night. At first it was okay but as time goes by, I feel like I barely know him already. We argued a lot but good thing we were able to handle the situation before it’s too late.