I’m sure every woman involved in the dating scene has, at one time or another, heard the concept of “playing hard to get.”
In order to make a guy really want to pursue her, a woman has to pretend to be unavailable (even though she’s not) and start a good old-fashioned cat-and-mouse chase. She tries not to let him know she’s that interested with those obvious cues, she lays low with communication and dodges messages until he has an epiphany.
You may find this hard to believe, but there’s research to suggest this actually works.
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Of course you men don’t like this, and consider it “game playing.” But it’s not really. We’re wired to work this way, on both sides. It’s our mating dance, and it’s every bit as legitimate as the mating rituals that other animals have. And this one actually makes sense for men as much as women. A woman who can hold herself somewhat aloof until a man has committed is PROVING her fidelity. That she values herself enough not to just jump in feet first over initial attraction. Once you’ve won her over, it really means something…
A quality man knows when a woman is pretending to be someone she’s not. Sure we get excited for a chase, but a real chase ladies…for a woman that truly is hard to get. You’ve got to stop thinking we’re all this dumb. We do our own discerning…for marriage anyway!
From what I’ve heard and seen personally, playing “hard-to-get” actually works both ways, not just for the woman. People have the innate urge to want things they can’t get. It makes it more… unique, special. In the gaming lingo/world, “hey check it out! I have this very rare legendary item! Cool right?”
Right now, we ARE mostly from the Y-generation and the gaming mindset is present in most of us.