In rearing my kids I always told them that ‘hate’ is a strong word. Don’t use it lightly, I advised. Don’t say, “I hate this tuna casserole!” Instead say, “Gee Mom, I strongly dislike this tuna casserole. Could I have a hot dog?” Save ‘hate’ for when ‘hate’ is the only word that can describe how you feel, when it counts.
I hate so much of what has happened recently.
I hate the senseless loss of the innocents. I hate the loss of good people who cared for the innocents.
From there it gets a little murky.
I hate that I have to separate myself from this tragedy in order to survive it. This is happening to them, not to me. I am safe, my children are safe.
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I agree. These are great suggestions. Mostly turn off the tv. And feel empathy, cry, and take a role in the debate if you think that will make a difference. otherwise we feel too powerless. never a good thing.
However, it is not uncommon for people on the autism spectrum to become violent. See the much noted blog posting “I am Adam Lanza’s Mom”. The big issue is a mentally person’s ability to access guns and act out on his/her anger that is the biggest problem. This doesn’t mean that we should single out people on this spectrum. In yesterday’s New York Times someone who has studied spree killers said there are three common denominators: mental illness, a belief he/she is a victim and will be famous afterward.
Maybe if we had spent all this amount of time on this young man try understand him 15 yrs ago instead of now, this may not have happened?
Excellent.
Former Gov. Mike Huckabee was in no way blaming the victims when he made his remarks about these things happening because we have “systematically removed God from our schools” and the “public sphere”. I have been so deeply sadened and sickened by this horrific event and by the other mass shootings in our country as of late…and as a born again, Bible – believing Christian, I also agree that our country made a very bad mistake when prayer was removed from schools and God has been (or attempted to be) removed from every area of our lives. If you look at the crime statistics and all of the crime trends that have occured since that decision it is very clear that has happened.
It is unfair for Christians to be “bashed” when their opinions don’t line up with yours. There have been many statements made about people with mental illness following this even in CT that are far from the truth. But I don’t “bash” them because their opinions are different than mine.
Please respect others’ points of view, even if they are different than yours or don’t make sense to you. They are entitled to them…
Thank you for such a well written article. I find myself worrying daily, not just for my son, but for those that cannot get the help that they need as budgets are cut. I hope it’s okay to post this, but I just came accross this site encouraging us to write Congress and it helps you do just that. http://capwiz.com/aacap/issues/alert/?alertid=62274076&utm_source=Children%27s+Mental+Health+Summit+at+the+White+House&utm_campaign=White+House+Summit&utm_medium=socialshare&utm_source=January+1%2C+2013&utm_campaign=Jan.+1%2C+2013&utm_medium=email Sorry, I don’t know how to shorten that link.