We all know people who sing their own praises at every work or social opportunity. You may sometimes wonder if they know something about self-confidence that you don’t. Perhaps their annoying habit is a sign that they’ve discovered some secret to waking up every day feeling ready to conquer the world. Truly, the line between self-confidence and arrogance can seem finer than it really is.
Cocky or Confident?
Cocky people do have confidence, but it comes from a different place than true self-assurance. Arrogance is one result of building self-esteem from outward sources such as financial privilege or constant praise. However, yank the external support system away, and the person’s sense of self-worth goes with it.
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I agree with you in part, but also think cultural differences play a part on how we perceive confidence. Here in the UK, we tend to be much more understated about how we do things than our cousins across the pond, which has very little to do with self-assuredness.
I have always been astonished by #3. Active Listening vs. The Monologue seems to be an easy one on the surface, but in real life it’s a total mystery. I’ve been told by almost everyone I’ve ever talked to for more than a few minutes that I’m a wonderful listener, but not one of them has ever been interested in listening to me in return. How is that supposed to work for me??? I can see how it’s good for them, but how is it good for me to be nothing but a convenience?