A new research article that we published today sheds some light on why and how relationships change after two people go from being in a relationship to being in a marriage.
Both types of relationships value the belief that your partner is there to help you …
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I would like to point out that while I could agree with this, how about the opposite side of the coin?
How many people are unhappy with their marriage due to their partner no longer trying to keep the relationship alive. Its a lot harder to divorce someone than it is for a dating couple to split.
Point is, yes there are benefits to marriage, but there is just as many reasons NOT to marry. With a divorce rate hovering around 50%, with many more not getting divorced due to financial or other limitations, where is the real cost/improvement benefit?
I would like to take this moment to answer what “anynameIwant” stated. As you mentioned that you wanted to present the other side of the coin. And as you have done so, this still brings me to a point that so many people while using the “coin” theory in their stands against marriage, I present the fact that the coin would have no value or worth if “both” sides are not together. A twenty five cent coin is not called twenty five cents becuase some thougth the name was nice. It’s called that becuase of both side being melted and formed into one thus giving it it’s worth, value and weight.
Marriage is not about having selfish happiness. Marriage is about making your partner happy. Don’t misunderstand, the viewpoint is from the giver not the reciever. If each side of the “couple coin” desires to give value and worth to it’s countpart, the “coin” unit which is the married couple with be worth it’s weight in gold.
The improvement benefit is that both parties are committed to the stability of the whole. There are times when disagreements occur but the underlying truth still stands thus understanding and communication come into play to resolve the disagreement seeing the wholeness of the marriage as the goal not the individual points of view.
I think it is all too commen now adays for couples to jump into relationships with out thinking the desition through all the way. I believe most people truely do not know what they want and think it is someone elses job to make them happy. You must first know what you stand for and your morals, then you can reflect all desitions that you make on what you stand for. If that desition is contradicting your moral judgements then you are left with a chose. 1)do I still believe this moral? 2) Is it possible that my moral is wrong? We must first learn what we want and what makes us happy. If you are unhappy or feel there is a void in your life no person can fill that void. Marriage is a very large commitment that you are making you need to make sure this is truely what you want and are you emotionaly health in this relationship. If you can not answer these questions perhaps you should slow down and find the answer, if the realtionship is ment to be it will still be there when you can answer these questions.