Though we live in a noisy world, many people struggle with too much silence in their lives. They are either living alone or living with others who are engrossed in their own thing. (That’s easy to do in the digital age).
Sure, you can always click on the TV, the radio, or your latest digital gizmo. But what happens if you’re aching for a live person to talk to? To bounce ideas off of? To appreciate your accomplishments (big or small)?
When you’re feeling lonely, chances are you’re neglecting to give enough attention to a very special person. One who is always there with you. Who’s that? Why, you, of course. So, talk to yourself. Not just in your head. But out loud.
Talk to yourself out loud? Doesn’t that mean you’re becoming daft? Losing it? Ready for the funny farm?
Not at all.
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But what if you actually consider the person you’re talking to is another person? There is me then there is the other me, who I actually consider a person or entity that I’m talking to?
What if your talk is anger and rage? Is that healthy? I guess better than violence. But…
I knew there was a reason I’ve been doing that all of these years!
I love this – thank you!
I spend a lot of time alone, and got into the habit. i also find it helps me to keep on track, being a bit ADD, as I start off to do something and get distracted. And I do it sometimes as you mentioned – I have to make a decision – and in addition to maybe writing down alternatives, sometimes if a I verbalize them as well, I see/hear them differently.
You know, there’s a reason that meditating with a mantra or phrase is often done out loud – it focuses your mind.
The negatives of self talk are using this to automatically put yourself down, no more examples necessary, so the idea of replacing all that with an occasional – good going girl! makes sense.
Hello,
I agree with you 100%. I also have ADD and I had found that when I look deeply into my eyes and talk to myself in the mirror, helps me to remember things and it does keep me focus through out the day. Psychologists should research about this subject.
Thanks,
Cecilia
I can relate to most of you guys i guess, been talking to myself during times of stress since i dont know when. Reading articles like this really helps me to understand it, so it’s not so worrying
I think it is good to talk well and kindly to yourself.After all a lot of people one meets will only see one in a negative light misjudging the person one really is. Perhaps they do this out of sheer jealousy and that’s their’ problem.So be the one person you can rely on to be good to you— yourself
I’ve been talking to myself just about all my life and not because I’m lonely but because I have an urge to understand my own thoughts. And now that I’ve matured I understand the wonderful benefits of talking to yourself. You really have a better way of speaking to others about what you’re feeling instead of just saying whatever comes to mind. There are times when I don’t understand the way people communicate,It seems like their not making any real logical sense to me ! I want to tell them go talk it over with yourself first then talk to me.