Six Ways To Deal With Mother’s Day When Mom Is Gone
Mother’s Day can be rough on those of us who can’t take our mothers to brunch or pick up the phone to wish them a good day. Remembering who they were before they went …
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I too deal with the sadness of Mother’s Day without the Mother. My mother passed away four years ago very suddenly. It has been hard, although, I feel I deal with it very well. On Mother’s Day I try to think about her a little more. I also try to make sure that I don’t let that sadness get in the way of enjoying my Mother’s Day. I do miss her. She was my best friend.
Dear Faribi,
You strike a good balance between remembering the love you have for your mother and enjoying the day for you. I will be doing the same today. Have a wonderful day.
For those of us with bad mothers, Mother’s Day is a crock. As my mother’s psychological caregiver since age 7, I recognize that as still being my role and thus, on Sunday, I took her flowers and my grandsons, but she deserves no accolades for being a horrible mother. Since I was forced to give her gifts on that day, even though she didn’t deserve them, I require no recognition from my own kids. These “special” little holidays are for normal people, not for those of us from dysfunctional families.
Dear Jude,
Yes, Mom’s can be awful and Mother’s Day can be annoying in it’s Hallmark Card-ness, absolutely.
My colleague on PsychCentral Marie Hartwell-Walker, Ed.D. wrote ‘It’s Never To Late To Find A Mom’ http://psychcentral.com/lib/2009/its-never-too-late-to-find-a-mom/ You might find it interesting.