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How to Get Your Partner to Trust You Again

You’ve been found out.

Your partner discovered that you are cheating. The good news is that your partner isn’t planning on leaving you. The bad news is that he doesn’t trust you, either.

You don’t want to lose him, but how do you begin to rebuild what has been damaged?

You have no choice but to begin with yourself. In order to regain trust, you have to ask yourself difficult questions so that you know what you were looking for. You also have to know why you cheated. Many people will cheat without really knowing why they did so.

Ask yourself the following questions to get started.

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How to Get Your Partner to Trust You Again

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  1. Thank you for formulating notions and feelings into words that I understand. You help me and the relationship of which I am a part.

  2. Great article, very insightful.
    This is exactly the roller coaster I go through.
    I can only hope my SO reads this, and understands the concept that I can’t put it into a time-frame…
    That I need to see consistent change in him, and that there will be triggers that will set me back months…
    Several times, he has thought of taking “the easy way out” and thought to find someone knew who would never dream that a guy like him would betray a woman. To a new girl, he’d be the prince I thought he was a year ago… He probably faces that decision every day I have a setback in trusting him…

  3. ok u say this is for non breakups but near edge what about if it already fell through she’s had past experience but she’s my first she will talk to me about it but then she just ignores me I really want to show here how much she means to me but how do I if she pushes and pulls me around

  4. Tanx alot,this is really helping me in ma relationship

  5. My problem is that my x fiancee thinks i cheated on him but I d I d nit..he sees me flirt n all my friends d’s know thst i can carry a social conversation n can be sense as flirtatious to exaggerated viewers.
    Non the less I feel like I’m in the category of a cheater in x fiancee eyes..we want try counseling but looks like after meeting 3 different counselors we still don’t know what we want..i am confuse cuz i kicked him out in our living situation n now lives with his parents or in his boat ( it’s nice he has not been to his boat cuz still gives me insecurities as wel. I don’t know if we will move on with separate lives n b It he still wants to contact ne n say sweet eords but he kept dwelling of me cheated on him he said thats why we broke up. I want us back is there hope for us to get back? And what shud i do if he wants to sleep together..but my purpose in relationship is to build up couplehood nfamily..let me know what shud I do in our breakup period
    Thank u

  6. I hurt my gf too much..Twice already,but i really regret on can i gain her trust and love back to me?when from now on she doesnt want me anymore to be a part of her life..I really love her so much,and only now i realized her worth..can you help me to fix this messed things out..

  7. Hi I have an experience I am going thru….and please do not judge me I am 25 years old I met and got engaged to my fiance of 3 and a half years…In april this year I got severely into heavy drugs buying everything and anything that was available to me at that time My fiance who is currently in prison found out thru a family member that I had slept with a family friend who at the time was barely 21 I tried to commit suicide when I thought I had lost my fiance….. He gave me a second chance but lately it seems as if he has distanced himself from me I just want him to learn to trust me again Because he is my world My reason to exist we have a 2yr old little boy together :) I have NEVER cheated before I was sick at the time heavily addicted to drugs I love this man with all that I am since 8 months ago We have been on a very emotional roller coaster He has points where he is extremely angry with me and others he is extremely sad or has no EMOTIONS AT ALL I know we can beat this but I need to know how to help

  8. Hello my name is eddie I really love my fiance with all of my heart I have talked to two individuals that I had never met before and we’ll I kept going on and telling them things until they showed me stuff but I never wanted too see them personally or have sex with them at all and my fiance caught me and she thinks I had an affair when I never did idk what to do she hates me but I love her some one help me out please I don’t want to loose her at all



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