When relationships get messy individuals part ways, some struggle with letting go. Why does this happen? In metaphorical terms, who really enjoys being shut out of a locked house? We seem to have an inner longing to open the closed door.

I’ve been down this road before; it’s certainly difficult to no longer have that relationship in your life, and it’s hard to come to terms with the acceptance of what is no longer controllable.

Since I endorse positive thinking, of course I will rationalize that the door is closed for a reason in every which way.

However, these complicated situations got me thinking about the thought process behind the hurt. Why does it matter to us so much?

It may be our need for approval that lies at the heart of it all.

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