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How to Stop Coping With Anxiety & Start Living

By Margarita Tartakovsky, M.S.
Associate Editor

How to Stop Coping With Anxiety & Start LivingWhen you’re riddled with anxiety or worry, it can feel like you’re in the back seat of a careering car. Your anxiety and worry have hijacked the driver’s seat, feet slammed on the gas, while you’re confused and feeling out of control with no access to the brakes. It’s frustrating and demoralizing to feel like you’re being dragged around by angst and unease.

Fortunately, there are many effective techniques to help you return to the driver’s seat.

I had the pleasure of interviewing Kathryn Tristan, a researcher at the Washington University School of Medicine and author of the forthcoming book Why Worry? Stop Coping and Start Living (available December 4, 2012).

As her book title reveals, Tristan believes that we can stop coping with anxiety and worry and instead start living fulfilling lives. She discusses this in greater detail below.

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How to Stop Coping With Anxiety & Start Living

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  1. Moving toward living fully is part of our birthright. I appreciate the emphasis in this articleon focusing on how we can work with ourselves to make changes from continual worry and anxiety to calmness. Shifting from the survival mode of fight or flight in the sympathetic nervous system to calmness and feelings of security in the parasympathetic nervous system is the key. Some of the most effective healing modalities are meditation, acupuncture, diaphragmatic breathing, gentle yoga and cardiovascular exercise.

  2. This, and many techniques require a regular commitment to make a lasting transition. What do you recommend people do to help keep from slipping away from this before they successfully “rewrite” the brain?

  3. Hi – I recently realized I have anxiety/depression. My marriage is suffering and my husband refuses counsling. I will not refuse counsling. I feel so alone and scared. The same thing happened to my husband’s ex wife and he put her in a physc ward for 3 days. I am concerned he will try this with me.
    Any suggestions?

    • This article is a great reminder for me to return on the cushion and meditate.
      Anxiety may be a factor in my life, but it can be controlled without drugs.

      Darell: try learning and genuinely applying nonviolent communication
      Cnvc.org there is a three hour video for free on YouTube his San Francisco workshop.
      (Have also heard good things about neuro linguistic programming)
      Also: change your diet. Less caffeine more vegetables fruits vitamins nuts seeds
      Go to whole foods and get wheat grass or juice
      Also try meditation before practicing NVC and keep a journal with you.
      Try watching the movie “the truth” it has NVC in it and positive thinking

      You might find out interesting things. Also check out RC.org for counseling for yourself. This is unconventional counseling focused on ridding past hurts.

      If you work on these dedicate for a couple years and you still don’t see a change in a husband, you might see that in fact, he is the one with the problem, then you’ll need to make a decision for your own happiness

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