“To fall in love is awfully simple, but to fall out of love is simply awful,” (said Bess Myerson) — especially if you are the one who wanted the relationship to last. But you can’t simply choose to stop loving — it just isn’t an option.
“When those you love deeply reject you, leave you, or die, your heart will be broken. But that should not hold you back from loving deeply. The pain that comes from deep love makes your love ever more fruitful,” writes author Henri Nouwen.
But how do we get beyond the pain?
Here are 12 tips I’ve gathered from experts and from conversations with friends on how they patched up their heart and tried, ever so gradually, to move on.