“To fall in love is awfully simple, but to fall out of love is simply awful,” (said Bess Myerson) — especially if you are the one who wanted the relationship to last. But you can’t simply choose to stop loving — it just isn’t an option.
“When those you love deeply reject you, leave you, or die, your heart will be broken. But that should not hold you back from loving deeply. The pain that comes from deep love makes your love ever more fruitful,” writes author Henri Nouwen.
But how do we get beyond the pain?
Here are 12 tips I’ve gathered from experts and from conversations with friends on how they patched up their heart and tried, ever so gradually, to move on.
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I have a broken heart and at the moment can not see it healing as the woman I love is still at my side but about to leave,as anyone who has suffered the pain knows what I am going through , I can not beg anymore for forgiveness at the lack of love I have shown my wife and now ironically can not stop telling her how I love her but all too late.i have to accept it and let her move on and know time is a great healer,but how long do I wait for the pain to go .no tablet can help .maybe I will find love again but I think I will have built a wall to stop it happening again .i used to be one of those guys who said ,look at that woman wow! But now do not have any go in me . The only positive is that I have a son to keep me going ,but that involves seeing his mum all the time and knowing she has moved on.
Hi. Just a lonely Monday evening, six months into a broken heart and spirit. I’ll spare you the details because it’s always somewhat the same: Man, promises the world, loves and adores you and then suddenly walks in and says he can’t do it–all just a week before my 40th birthday. To say I downward spiraled would be an understatement. I am completely lost to the girl I was before, haunted at how cruel someone, who was suppose to love me and adore me, just disappeared, as if it had never happened at all. Thank you for your post. It gives me the slightest, inkling of hope–I’m not alone and time is a funny thing. I thought for sure, being a good solid rebound girl that I would be over this by now but nope…it lingers.
I’ve lost friends, feel isolated and even when I have moments of joy they are fleeting. But ever so slowly i continue to put one foot in front of the other, trying to keep my heart open. I have so much to live for but for now its lost in some sort of haze of disbelief, regret, sadness, questions that will never be answered.
Thank you again for being just a small shining light.
Dawn
my mom died of ovarIAN CANCER,, AND I NEVER TOOK HER FOR A SECOND OPINION,, AS THE DOCTOR DIDNT SPEAK OUR LANGUAGE,, AND I WAS SO NOT EXCEPTING OF HER DEATH ,, SHE DIED ALL ALONE,, AS I WAS NOT BY HER SIDE,, AND FOR THAT I WILL NOT ALLOW ME TO EVER FORGIVE MYSELF,, AND SHE NEVER COMPLAINED THE WHOLE DURATION OF HER OVARIAN C.
Same story…love lost and I waited 3 yrs to try aging, only to have my heart broken again. The tears wont stop and he calls crying a weekness so it only makes it worse. I want to cling…but like sand thru ur fingers he moves further away. I guess I am not ready for a relationship yet. I so thot I was….only to find pain again. To go alone is maybe better.