According to John Bradshaw, author of Home Coming: Reclaiming and Championing Your Inner Child, the process of healing your wounded inner child is one of grief, and it involves these six steps (paraphrased from Bradshaw):
1. Trust
For your wounded inner child to come out of hiding, he must be able to trust that you will be there for him. Your inner child also needs a supportive, non-shaming ally to validate his abandonment, neglect, abuse, and enmeshment. Those are the first essential elements in original pain work.
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These steps are so helpful. It takes time to heal and we have to do the footwork.
As a former licensed foster parent, I witnessed healing in the children who did take the steps to resolve their ability to be aware and move on in life. From the book, 21st Century Science and Health, “Material history is not as real and living as spiritual history.” Thanks
And this is not TA?
Why can’t we just get on with it? I really don’t want to revisit the past. These people are dead and gone now. I just want all of this hurt over.
I was thinking that too but it just isn’t working for me. I’m isolated and feel rage come up suddenly without warning. It’s like I’m back at age 6 or 7 if something triggers a memory. I have to try to get a solution. Maybe this will help.
As I read the 6 I just started crying my eyes out. I feel for me the loneliness is heart breaking it touches a nerve somewhere deep within and it hurts so much… I am see a therapist with a year and a half and have come so far but this loneliness is still there and wonder do I need to change therapists? I would like to do an Inner Child workshop but can’t find any close to where I live in southern Ireland…