Raising a family can enhance your relationship, according to Silvina Irwin, Ph.D, a clinical psychologist who works with couples. But the resources, time and energy you once devoted to your relationship will naturally get depleted, she said.
“Couples often find themselves making more withdrawals from the relationship bank, and making fewer deposits,” she said.
In more traditional households, dads might feel like they’ve lost their wives to their little one, while moms might feel utterly overwhelmed, Irwin said.
And this can have serious consequences for the relationship. Men might feel “less desired and less desirable,” turning away from the relationship and toward close female co-workers, gaming or pornography, she said. Women might feel “devalued and abandoned. This can breed resentment, frustration and confusion, as they may ask themselves ‘What happened to my supportive partner?’ and they feel largely on their own.”
So what can you do?