All relationships have problems. And all relationships require work to keep them healthy.
Below, two experts who work with couples share some of the most common concerns that can sabotage relationships, along with successful strategies.
1. Technology.
According to clinical psychologist Silvina Irwin, Ph.D, even though technology keeps us connected, it also can keep us apart. “Not only is it siphoning off energy from the relationship, but it’s also an easy exit for people who tend to avoid conflict, tension, or stress in their lives,” she said. Instead of tuning into each other, partners turn to their devices and escape into cyberspace, she said.
Strategies: “Designate technology-free zones in the house and technology-free times,” Irwin said. For instance, you might decide that the dinner table and evening hours are off-limits. It also helps to figure out why you use technology, she said. “If you are stressed or there is tension in your relationship, imagine reaching out to your partner to connect, to work through issues or get support — instead of your device,” she said.
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I have tried every way imaginable to describe this to my SO, asking him to end his emotional affair…
Sadly, my requests go ignored, I am told I am wrongly jealous of a girl he’ll never be sexually interested in again (the dated just before me)
I don’t know how else to to tell him it feels “wrong.”. I’ve shared every article on emotional affairs that I’ve seen…
Men and women, listen up! If you have to hide your conversations with another man/woman, if you have to meet in secret, you are having an emotional affair —STOP IT!!