Otto von Bismarck, the German statesman, once said that “Love is blind; friendship tries not to notice.”
It’s a lovely sentiment, and often true. When you love someone, after all, you love all of them — the cute, sweet parts and the ucky, evil parts both. When you’re really good friends, you notice all that stuff but try to look past it, even though you don’t have to.
Somewhere between “just friends” and “old married couples” lies the means of getting from one to the other: dating. Dating apparently was invented by underworld minions to ensure that only the species’ best would get together to procreate.
Girls, you know that old saying, “You have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find your prince”? Have you figured out what to do when 1) they’re all frogs and 2) you don’t want to kiss any of them? Besides despair that a prince exists, I mean.
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Hi Candy,
This is really a interesting article you have written! I cant help grinning while reading this article. I remember blind dates used to be exciting for me when I was younger…especially when meeting guys I have not met before online..
On your point that as people grow older, they tend to able to guess the person at first glance..i absolutely agree! I guess it’s because we have seen too many people in the workplace that we tend to be able to see through the character of the person from their body language
Hi Jesslyn, I’m glad you liked it! I think the things age takes away from us are a fair trade for what it gives us, personally. I’d much rather be able to figure someone out instantly than waste months or a year or whatever of my life on them. No telling how much is left, and it’s too short to spend with the wrong person.
Gotta agree too that the workplace is a great place to learn character judgment!
Thanks again for reading and commenting.
— Candy
Great article. The older I get the quicker I am able to assess someone. And now I’m in my 40s, I’m more than capable of being honest and upfront (in a nice way), with people, rather than, as you say, wasting months or years being too polite to say what I really think and just putting up with stuff. If this puts off potential dates, then so be it, I’d rather remain single than put up with being with the wrong person.
Interesting that women would find this funny. Another perspective: a woman quick to judge, and a man who is eager to disengage from such bad manners.
It appears from this article that the older women get, the more confident they feel about emasculating a man. Perhaps they have always been in the emasculation business and that is the very reason they need to date when they are deep into their 50s.
There is only one requirement when seniors date. That requirement is courtesy.