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What to Do on the Bad Days of Depression

When you don’t have depression, a bad day might mean sadness and murky musings. But the gloomy thoughts and feelings tend to dissipate, and you bounce back in a day or two, according to Deborah Serani, Psy.D, a clinical psychologist and author of Living with Depression.

However, if you’re struggling with depression, a bad day is filled with profoundly “cynical, pessimistic and distorted” thoughts that you just can’t shake, she said.

A bad day leaves you emotionally and physically drained. Serani, who’s experienced depression, described feeling “emotionally wrung out” and “physically limp and bone weary.”

“Depression is an experience of depletion,” she said. “You’re worn down, hollowed out, devoid of enthusiasm or vitality.” You feel like nothing is worth fighting for, she said.

That means that on the days you need it most, soothing yourself can be excruciatingly difficult. But there are ways you can feel better — without having to take big steps.

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What to Do on the Bad Days of Depression

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  1. All of those sensory stimulators, self soothers and de-stressors have degree of evidence supporting them.

    But the odiferous sun-blocking elephant in the room is the environment of those most severely afflicted and distressed who are confined in in patient psychiatric units, in prisons and jails, in hospital/insitution based day programs and in low income/high crime/low green space housing:

    Inpatient units feature heavy shatter proof glass, often embedded with screening windows that do not open. There is no natural daylight or sunshine to enjoy. Ditto fresh air, the smell of rain, the fresh scents of flowers, grass and plants or any aspect of nature. There is nothing naturally green in these environments. There is uncontrollable noise, foul and foreign odors, TVs blasting unending junk food – well, just plain junk marketing and programming. If there is exercise, it’s mindless lap walking going nowhere, with no scenery to distract. Food served in these settings runs toward highly processes, added sugar, industrial seed oil, hyperpalatable and nutrient poor filler. Nuts, fresh fruit, vegetables, lean proteins and olive oil rarely, if ever, appear on prison, hospital and institutional cafeteria menus. Nor are they available in patient accessible vending machines.

    I could keep going, but anyone with first hand experience in any of these settings can fill in the blanks I haven’t addressed.

    These traditional settings for delivering “care” and “treatment” to the ones who most need the interventions which you cite, and which not only fail to do so, but which force those incarcerated, hospitalized and guilty of being impoverished to be subjected to yet more decidedly distressing surroundings, work at cross purposes.

  2. Great advice. Love that you have focussed on the activation, or re-activiation of the senses that are the very place where and/or through which we form beliefs about our world, possibly the very beliefs that plunge us into depression in the first place.

  3. Thank you for this article. I needed a reminder of all the things I hack in my toolkit to combat depression.

  4. doesn’t help….still sick! feel terrible

  5. I think this article was a great reminder of what we, potentially, can do to help work on decreasing the levels of depression we are experiencing. I try to remind myself of the sunlight suggestion as often as possible so I am getting some natural light.

    The most difficult part, for me, is I spend a great deal of time alone at home with my cats. There’s nothing wrong with that, it’s just that I don’t get the human interaction that seems to help me feel a bit better. I have friends and family that will check-in on me periodically, but that’s usually by phone or text. There are times that, aside from seeing my neighbors outside, that I don’t actually interact with people, in person, for days on end. It just seems to happen that way.

    Now, I’m not saying that these techniques will be ineffective, but some of them, unfortunately, don’t seem to work for me personally. I do love my scented candles, which I generally have burning at all times of the day, so that may be helping a little bit. When it comes to aromas, I find that baking (being a former professional baker) does seem to help me, but quite often I get myself into a manic mode when I bake. But, at least I can focus that energy on something good. Plus, it helps me get some human interaction because, I’ll bake so much in one afternoon or morning, that I take it all to my neighbors to enjoy. So, I think that does help me a bit as well.

    Sometimes it’s just so difficult to get that energy to accomplish even the simplest tasks though. I find that happens a lot. I’ll get a great idea to do something in the house and then my thoughts and mood shift and I just put it off and can’t seem to get motivated or feel the energy to actually do it. Nonetheless, it’s all baby steps, so in time, I’m hopeful that I’ll begin to feel better and better, and these techniques may help with that.

    • I can relate. We are social beings. I am never touched in a caring way by another human being. Sometimes I feel I will never be hugged again. Isolation and loneliness are killers (literally). Volunteering is recommended, but I lack the energy and rarely get dressed anymore. I have taken every med, had ECT, and talk therapy. Nothing works. I spent $400 on a transcranial device. A waste of money.

  6. This makes sense. I suffer from mild depression, probably better described as frequent periods of melancholy. However, I do have bad days that fit the description of depression above. Thankfully they are rare, but I have a treatment that has seen me through some pretty dark days. I have come to the realisation that I have never been depressed while swimming in the ocean. If it all gets too much, I take time out and spend an hour or more in the sea, no matter how bad the weather or how rough (tidal pools good). The description of how the senses of sight, hearing, feeling, taste and smell all come into play.

  7. If your life is rubbish, people dislike you,and you have a lifetime of memories about how ghastly and cliquey and unfair people are — how are you going to “treat” that?

    You talk about depression as if it just appears for no reason, you make it sound almost “trendy” to have it!

    And what’s even more depressing is that you will ignore this comment because it doesn’t sound “nice”!

  8. I have been battling major depression for 16months. Just in the past month I’ve finally started to recover. Recovery is not a straight line forward, and one can be depressed for a long time, like me, but make a full recovery. I thought I was in recovery this time last year, but it wasn’t do and I relapsed. Never give up. The vast majority of people make full recoveries. We may always have a tendency for another episode. This is my second bout of it. 23 years ago I was majorly depressed for over a year as well. But I fully recovered.

  9. I have never done this before. I am having a dreadful day. Feel totally Praised, even to the point of taking a shower. I feel frozen in time. Feel so alone. I have suffered from depression all my life. I am retired so don’t have social contact, mostly because I find excuses NOT to go anywhere. I would like some help to get me through today. Please, Isobel

  10. I have had depression on and off since my 20s It came to a head when my Mum died in 1989 and I was put on medication, which helps but sometimes just like yesterday and today the dark cloud comes down and i cannot control it. I was fine yesterday morning and then down it came and I cannot shake it off, I dont know what to do/



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