I flew back from a conference last week sitting next to a man who was flying to Boston, so that he could drive to Springfield to bury his sister. He told me this …
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Today I’m greiving over a family situation too.My elderly mother lives far enough from me that I don’t see her often. My brother lives with her. She has dementia and wandered from home half dressed. Neighbors called police they took her to hospital. My brother won’t communicate with me. I hope I can still talk on the phone with Mother and he doesn’t ruin that little bit we still have. I’m sad over the loss of him too. I’m not against him. I can only speculate whats going on in his mind. Thank You
Loosing someone we really care about is not easy. Still, we have to survive the moment and go on with our “miserable” existence.
I appreciate your response Joseph. It’s given me alot to think about in terms of losing or loosing someone. In the language of the 12 steps loosing would be ” turning it over”.I’m in agreement with that. It is a comfort to be acknowleged and heard.
This article provides several good points. I wish more young people could reflect upon life or at least think of life in the ways this article encourages one to.
I have a family member who constantly argues with his mother and he visibly disregards her feelings, thoughts, and intentions. She believes she is doing what’s best for him, but he isn’t wise enough yet or grateful enough to appreciate at least her efforts. A big person is able to (despite not agreeing with a person) appreciate what that person is saying or at least consider what that person believes is right. He is unable to do this and constantly fights his 55yr old mother. Pride is in the way.
Essentially, he has gone on with his life and pushed his mother out. They don’t speak and she doesn’t see the grand-children.
I appreciate my mother a lot, even though we may not agree on everything. I appreciate her wisdom and the many years she’s experienced life has affored me knowledge ahead of my time because I listen to her wisdom. I don’t konw what I would do without my mother’s perspective on a lot of things.
It is sad that some people must find this out when the other person is gone, has moved far away, or has died or become extremely ill. Some people say “life is too short” and truly believe that, yet, they don’t quite live that out in their lives and in their relationships. While there are some relationships I believe are not always reconsilable, life is certainly too short, and it would be to the benefit of many relationships if people took this saying truly to heart.