Oh, I’m a gold star junkie. I always want to see those gold stars stuck to the top of my homework. I crave praise, appreciation, recognition.
I’ve done a lot to combat my craving for gold stars1.
I also try hard to give other people the gold stars they deserve. As my mother once told me, “Most people probably don’t get the appreciation they deserve.” Like my own mother!
But it’s not always easy to dole out those gold stars in an effective way. So here are 7 tips that may help you.
Footnotes:
- Here are 5 tips for dealing with feeling unappreciated [↩]
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No, I am not a gold star junkie in any way. I feel a lotal lack of the need for this and often try to act pleased when someone awards me them so not to seem strange or hurt their feelings. Giving praise is a thing I could learn in that others seem to respond favorably to it
I love this article. Five gold stars!!
Yes, yes, YES!! I say this not only after having terrible experiences with certain of my own teachers who would only criticize and never praise. I say it just as much because of what I’ve seen in recent years with students being praised for playing badly, and thereby developing huge, impenetrable ego complexes that keep them playing badly.
All too often, good people get overlooked and taken for granted because ‘management attention’ is focused on problems. If someone does an exceptionally good job for you tell them, and more importantly tell their boss.