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Best of Our Blogs: May 4, 2012

By Brandi-Ann Uyemura, M.A.
Associate Editor

I don’t know when it became shameful to ask for help. We certainly didn’t start our lives out that way. Imagine a baby reaching for mom’s hands to walk or a child needing his dad to hold his bike before he’s ready to ride on his own. Instead of supporting them, what if they said, “Shame on you for needing help. You should be able to do it on your own.”

Yet, when we grow up, that need for help embarrasses us. It makes us feel less than. We think that because we’re old enough to stand on our own two feet, we don’t need help anymore. And if we do, we should stay quiet about it. It’s much better to pretend we’re okay than to let the world know how imperfectly human we are.

It’s unfortunate that we live in a society with opportunities and resources, yet we’re so afraid to ask for help. The truth is we all need help whether we’re 2 or 62 years old. As adults, we may visibly appear to be less vulnerable than children. But the older we are, the greater the depth of our wounds.

Whether you or a loved one is struggling with porn addiction, loneliness or anxiety, I hope the posts below will encourage you to seek help. There is nothing embarrassing or shameful about doing so. In fact, seeking the help you need means you’re probably somebody’s *mental health hero.

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Best of Our Blogs: May 4, 2012

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  1. Ihave had depression (severe) for many years. I have had ect (don’t want that again). I have a good psychiatrist, but it seems whatever med I am on, my body catches up to it at it becomes less effective. I keep hoping this angry black cloud or hole will go away but it seems to stay. I never laugh, smile. I am just here. Nothing intests me. I am alone alot. Who wants to be around someone who is down all the time. Thank you for suggestions. I also had back surgery last year which keeps limits me to a walker or wheelchair.

    • Operator i was pained to read your comment-depression plus this back ailment is enough to put down anybody;but life goes on & we have to make the best of it,as you are no doubt trying to do.By the way what measures are you taking to infuse some light in your life?I think others too can take help from your tips.Please reply.

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