This guest article from YourTango was written by Virginia Clark.
Choosing your life partner is one of the most important decisions you’ll ever make. When you find the man who’ll be beside you every day, it impacts every aspect of your life. So, when I see women who approach finding their “soulmate” with so little concern about it’s true importance, I feel overwhelming frustration.
They meet and date perfectly good men, men who want to be in a committed relationship; but then they treat these men as if they were nothing special, as if there were plenty more where they came from. They make the same mistakes with men over and over again, get the same results, and are in complete denial about their own behavior. This tells me they don’t take themselves or dating seriously enough.
I’ve also seen women transform into adolescent girls when they date; they have no regard for consequences. When they do this they diminish themselves and of course get less than spectacular results with men. How can you stop sabotaging your dates and give looking for love the importance it needs?
Here are the three most common mistakes you may be making…
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Dear Virginia,
As a sensitive man I must be so lucky to have a woman who constantly respects and appreciates me as I do her.
Come the transition to a ‘biblical’ relationship she was the one who asked me if I was ready and that there was no pressure.
I know from my own experiences that I have done the things you mention in the past in relationships and they all crash and burn.
The need for communication and mutual resolution rather than compromise is also valid and essential.
Many thanks. Rod