My Psychotherapy Journey: From Duty to Timidity to ProgressI started psychotherapy for the wrong reasons.

A few people had suggested throughout the past couple years that I do it, and I thought I’d go to one session to say I’d done it and be done with it. Well, I went to that one session and told the counselor I needed help with stress. She talked to me about stress, but in ending the session, rather than asking “Do you want to come back?” asked “When do you want to come back?”

I have difficulty saying no to anyone, so I agreed to a time. The next session went nearly identical to the first, but during the third session she redirected the goal of our sessions toward me talking more. She had me take some tests (MMPI-2 and MCMI) and I wrote out a list of my goals for her.

She never directly told me, but eventually I picked up that she thinks I have social anxiety disorder. She started having me write down situations in which I felt anxious and what I was thinking and feeling at those times, but I didn’t really understand the point of it. I started realizing just how much anxiety had controlled my life, but I didn’t feel like doing this was helping me.

What this work did do, however, was make me really want to be able to do the things I was so terrified of doing.

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My Psychotherapy Journey: From Duty to Timidity to Progress

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  1. Wow how inspiring! I also started a counselling skills course to practice talking more about myself to people who I will also talk to as students and college friends. I also volunteer in a hospice and I talk to patients and families who are more preoccupied in their own situation (for good reason) so they are easy to talk to as I know they just need someone, anyone to talk to and I’ll do! I also like practicing small talk with cashier and waiters etc.

    • Well, some days are better than others,and for the past couple days I have wanted to thank you for your thoughtful comment but didn’t feel like I had the right words to say so here is a belated thank you.

      I’m glad it sounds like you’ve found great ways to practice and improve your skills!

  2. So inspirational. Thanks for sharing!!

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