9 Tips For Building a Loving RelationshipThis guest article from YourTango was written by Dr. Lynda Klau. 

How many of us have learned how to build loving relationships? Where did we learn? At home? At school? There is an art and science to building strong relationships. These indispensable tips were written with romantic relationships in mind, but with a little modification you can apply them to your friendships, family and even work relationships.

1. Create a safe environment where you can trust and share openly without being afraid.

Don’t interrupt, even if you need to put your hand over your mouth to stop yourself. Learn to fight fairly. No name calling. Don’t make threats. Apologize when you know you should. If you’re too angry to really listen, stop! Go into another room, take space for yourself, breathe and “calm down.”

Remember: your partner is not the enemy.

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9 Tips For Building a Loving Relationship

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  1. Much too long and complicated !
    At 69, I need short & sweet advice.

    • Dear i know ur problem and my advice 2 u that have better understanding for each other is enough

  2. This is a very good approach. And, its ultimately about bringing your best out from within, and offering that to your partner. The more we take care of and take responsibility for ourselves, the more we become the type of partner others are looking for.

  3. I too give a lot of importance to point number 7 that says “Ask questions when you’re unsure or are making assumptions.” Communication in any relationship is very important. Whether we are happy, hurt, disturbed or confused about any aspect of our relationship or have a problem with the habits/ ways of our life partner, we MUST discuss it. Look for an opportune moment, choose the right words, adopt a friendly approach and let your partner know how you feel about a certain situation or act. A healthy discussion is half the problem solved.

  4. I don’t have relationship of girls. Later one of the girl attracting me very much. But I cannot say that her.

  5. Share openly without being afraid is a very good advice but most time out of good intentions it gets misunderstood. Some people don’t take remarks or slight criticism well. I’ve came across that myself too many times. I think if you have found the right match with character and personality then the relationship will have less stress. Accepting yourself before others can accept you! That is how I feel happier. Now I’m single but happy.

  6. A relationship also needs faith.partners shud learn how to put faith in eachather s saying.That way,there will not be mistrust or suspects about one another.so parters,be faithful at all the times.Believe in your hearts!

  7. its like a cool wind giving u hypothermia and u feel sleepy bt ur partner tries to take ur sleep away…understand it fellah lovers,,,

  8. Never underestimate and never try to change your partner instead change yourself for him or her

  9. Hi Lynda, I love the tips and idea you have shared in this article. I especially liked the part about- “Create a safe environment where you can trust and share openly without being afraid.”. Seems like a tough task but I am going to give it a try and see if I can get some good result. Looking forward to see more tips from you.

  10. Hi Lynda,I love the way you present this article. I think it’s better to change yourself rather than try to change your partner.

  11. Follow your hart and the clerk will guide you from there.

  12. Iove has power use it

  13. This is one of the most important blogs that I have seen, keep it up!

  14. Thanks u guys with ur comments my relationship is
    Like falling apart..but I’ll practice ur tips!! Like going out,not changing hr instead changing myself for her… Hopefully this will help n conquer my relationship!! Thanks u so much

  15. Its really nice

  16. Learning how to master your ability to focus your attention is exciting and empowering. Then it’s just a matter of getting clear about what is really important to you.

  17. For any relationship ship to be successful I feel like both parties must be respected and considered. Some people consider emotions and lengthy detailed conversations important. If both parties needs aren’t being met then there’s no hope. Equal respect and equal love and attention are required to create a real functioning and happy team.

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