5 Relationship Skills for Conflicts Being in a close, loving relationship is many things. It’s comforting, satisfying, challenging, enlightening, and fun. The one thing that a close relationship is not, however, is simple.

In the beginning of a new relationship, the time I think of as the Golden Days, your partner can do no wrong. Snoring is cute. Picking up the socks that end up all over the house is an act of love. The thought of a serious fight seems impossible — until it happens.

The person you love the most, to whom you are closest, becomes irritating, stupid, or irrational. Suddenly the Golden Days are replaced with reality. You and your partner are shedding your pretenses. Neither you nor your loved one feels the need to impress the other. You are committed to each other. You’re comfortable together.

But the snoring starts to drive you crazy, and you resent the socks you have to pick up. Conflict arrives.

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5 Relationship Skills for Conflicts

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  1. Thanks – I think it matters that people are competent in solving conflicts. Because they WILL come up no matter what – and rather than having a situation escalate, or avoiding confrontation at all costs, it’s good to be able to resolve them in a constructive matter, without it taking a strain on the relationship.
    My favorite advise here was active listening – listening in the sense of really trying to understand, and doing everything you can to see things from the other person’s perspective. This is a useful skill in many areas of life, but it matters most in an intimiate relationship I think.

  2. Thank you. I absolutely agree, Active listening is KEY&there is so much to learn about each other if used correctly. I’m in the Human Services field&I find myself forgetting all the tools I had learned. This just reminded me how easy it is to regress&forget everything that I myself have learned. It’s also much harder to apply these skills in the heat of the moment. Also one must know that CONFLICT is not always a BAD thing.

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