I get a tremendous intellectual and emotional satisfaction when I hear someone give exactly the right answer to a difficult question. I was trying to remember some of my favorite examples of this kind of response, because just thinking about them makes me happy.
Here are four examples that sprang to mind.
1. My very favorite parenting book (its principles that apply equally to adults) is Faber and Mazlish’s How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk, and I also love their book, Siblings Without Rivalry. It has a terrific section about dealing with a child who says, “You love Joe more than me!”
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That’s why everyone loved Schwarzenegger’s Terminator character.
He always said exactly the right thing at the right time.
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Question: What kind of woman would ask, “Whom do you love more? Your mother or me?”
Answer: One whom I would run away from as fast as possible.
I cannot think of anything more tiring than trying making other people happy by giving them answers to questions that they would feel just right for them, and if you get it wrong, what then?. Its less stressful to be around people who will accept your answers as is, just honesly. I dont just relate to folks who’s answers to my questions make me feel happy, they could be giving them just so as to dupe me. Give me honest anwers dont worry about my feelings, that my concern.
Such a nice article! Saying the right thing really is comforting to a person who is worried because you are acknowledging their concern as valid and not pooh-poohing [is this even a word?
] it.