“You have to take risks. We will only understand the miracle of life fully when we allow the unexpected to happen.” — Paulo Coelho
Each year is a transition. We let go of relationships, connections to places, jobs and ways of being. But this opens us to new people, new associations and different ways of relating. Through death or circumstance or choice we move away from those we loved, or cared for, or knew: The unknown, the surprise, the unexpected takes their place. This is life.
Too often the losses weigh us down with a centrifugal sadness that keeps us pinned to the passing. Our energy is invested in the mourning, often for longer than what may be healthy or helpful.
But the loss we experience is directly proportional to the joy and love and engagement we’ve had. We feel the pain because we knew the joy. So the grieving must honor the connection as well.
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Love the VGV – has anyone published research on it?
Lisa
Very nice piece! Intuitively it feels like a worthwhile practice – I am going to give it a try.
This is a beautiful blog – VGV is a wonderful concept to pass forward – Suzanne
Thank you for your kind comments! There is no research on it yet, but my hope is that by introducing the technique based on what is known it can inspire some to be done.
This is a great intervention to practice. I am posting this post to the headboard. Well done. Thanks, Dan.