The Stigma of Humor and Fetishes“I like your blog,” someone will whisper to me at a party. It’s their secret — and I guess it’s a dirty one since they whisper it to me. Yes, I write a humor blog — which does, occasionally, address sexual penchants. Interestingly, the issues surrounding both are similar.

There’s a certain terror in being amused or aroused by something outside “the norm.” When I first started listening to my favorite comedy podcast which finds humor in all things (including truly horrific news items) I was a little taken aback by the conflict I felt at my reaction. “I’m a decent person,” I thought, “and yet I’m laughing at this…” I felt the same kind of discord in what I was turned on by: “But I can’t be this terrible… What is wrong with me?”

When it comes down to it, while we many not wish to find certain things funny, you like what you like. Similarly, many people find they have certain sexual desires — which they would, in a perfect world, prefer to dismiss.

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  1. I think that combining humor with a discussion of fetishes does a couple things, at least for me.

    First, the humor lowers my stress and anxiety so I can talk about it more comfortably, or perhaps talk about it at all.

    Second, by framing the subject as a joke, we can talk about it, yet keep it at a safe distance. If it works out right, we can pass judgement on the subject of the “joke”, but not pass judgement on each other. For that matter, it gives me the plausible deniability to avoid passing judgement on myself. I’m not a perv because I know way too much about this subject, it’s “just a joke”.

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