This guest article from YourTango was written by Virginia Feingold Clark.Sad brunette girl jealousy about her friend from Shutterstock
Breaking up is hard enough, but when there’s another woman involved, it’s doubly difficult. It doesn’t matter if she is drop dead beautiful or looks like moldy cheese; either way feels like someone stuck a knife in your back.
It’s particularly hard to overcome the heartbreak when another woman comes into the picture because you feel out of control. Any chance you might have had to work things out with him seems to vanish because he now has this new woman in his life.
Your shaken ego will desperately try to repair it’s hurt pride by urging you to find out why this happened — as if finding an explanation could make you feel better. You’ll scrutinize his feelings and begin to assume all kinds of reasons why he picked her over you.
This won’t fix your heartbreak. This will only end up with you blaming yourself up for lacking something that she must have.
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where is the “when she cheats and leaves”?
I liked all these ideas and realise that spending time thinking a blot the other woman was not productive but Has anyone had the experience where a spouse has along term friendship with a woman who gets so involved with his mistresses that she writes to them telling them how much my husband loves them , though my husband says he has given up the other women of which there are many , he refuses to stop writing daily to this friend
, he has also written love letters to her .any ideas we have been together 36 years I found out about the other women when one of them called me at home. We went to see a counsellor
I agree with you post as well. I believe the best answer is to be rational. In some cases women who have been cheated on are very likely to take their anger out on their partner and on their past lover as well. This can create a lot of tension between the two and can cause different perceptions if it is not handled correctly. Cheating is bad nonetheless, but the actions that you take afterward can either make or break you in a sense. Too much anger can be considered danger, but too little can lead to resentment and bottled up emotions waiting to explode. It’s all about balance.
Ray B Hill
My husband has cheated on me. I found out about it and because I love him so much I am trying so hard to forgive and forget. The day that I found out he told me that he needs me to get over this and not bring it up again. However, since that day he has been acting as if I did something to him and he tells me that he needs time to get over all the tornment that I have cause him. I am seeing a counsellor, been to an hypnotherphist, taking a stress management course and have registed for an anger management course. I want things to work out between us but I don’t feel that he wants things to work out. Should I stop following my heart and go with my gut?