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How To Have Conversations, Not Confrontations

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  1. Is this the beginning of a series? It has a lot of what not to do, but I don’t see many constructive suggestions here.

  2. I enjoyed this post, which is timely in my life because I was just thinking earlier this week about the nature of communication, and blogged a little about a seminar on “dialogue” I attended: http://franklinchen.com/blog/2011/10/11/communicating-through-dialogue/

    I am curious what you think of this “dialogue” framework that was presented to me.

  3. I found this therapist’s description of couple conflict spot on. It’s such a visual piece as well: I felt I was in the room and was quite uncomfortable. Beautifully written, it’s valuable in the suggestion that non-verbal communication can be as forceful as hurtful words. We should take great care in our relationships to LISTEN first, REACT slowly, if at all.

  4. I agree with Sara in that this article seems not to give the reader the expected “how to” as indicated by the title. Though very eloquently written, it may need a different title so as not to waste the time of those looking for answers on how to better communicate with their spouses.

  5. I found this article on the cognitive process of converstaion vs confrotation on point as well. I feel that as a man it’s easier for us to confront a problem rather than conversate through it. Alot of times mis-interpretations and accusations occur not based off what a person say’s but how they say it. You can say something that truly means no harm to your partner but if it is mis interpreted than it can cause some damage. The correct way to solve problems is not by confronting, but by solving them with correct conversation.

  6. I’m getting to the point where I say “why bother”? My wife is such a hot quick temper person you just want to give up. She seem to always misinterpret not only what I say but others as well. She feels like whenever anyone suggests or give her advice that they are talking to her as a child. Maybe that is why she has all these health issues including high blood pressure. This article didn’t really provide any advice.



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