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Best of Our Blogs: September 27, 2011

By Brandi-Ann Uyemura, M.A.
Associate Editor

Anger can be expressed in a multitude of ways. If we attempt to hide it, it can fester leading to resentment. If we ignore it, it can use food, shopping and other addictions to get our attention. If we focus all our energy on it, it can seep out, toxic and destructive, hurting everyone it touches. But if we simply listen to it, quietly, non-judgmentally, we may learn something.

Anger is an emotion that we’re often afraid of. As a kid, you’re taught to “play nice,”or to keep quiet when you’re upset. Sometimes the things adults don’t say in response to our negative emotions have the greatest impact of all. Maybe the adults in your life were fearful of their own anger and so you didn’t learn how to healthily express your own.

The bright side is that we can always make different choices. You could seek help from a professional, support from a friend and/or use the top posts below to start to become aware of how anger works or doesn’t work in your life. What will you choose to make better choices and live free of being afraid of your emotions?

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Best of Our Blogs: September 27, 2011

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  1. To actually learn from our anger is a positive new idea to me. Especially the idea that my anger may actually be a learned response to many events in my life.

    From this blog I learned that I can make other choices which are more healthy and can build a difficult relationship not tear it down.

    I am in such a situation and appreciate this insight.

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