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Best of Our Blogs: August 12, 2011

By Brandi-Ann Uyemura, M.A.
Associate Editor

Every day can seem pretty ordinary. It can look almost identical on the surface. But if you were to take a magnify glass and zoom in on the individual moments of your day, you may be surprised by what you find.

Within those 24 hours, there are mini lessons, opportunities to choose differently and open doors toward self-growth. The problem is we’re usually too busy to notice them.

Take today, for example. There was the lady who blatantly and unashamedly pushed me out of the grocery line. I could have chosen to say something. But I didn’t. I was also late for an appointment. I could have carried the guilt I felt throughout the rest of my day. But I didn’t do that either.

And there was that darn migraine. The headache that I’ve had since high school-the type that makes it insanely difficult to think or do anything, but rest. Well I did what I normally do when I have a headache, I tried to ignore it until I couldn’t ignore it anymore. Then, I rest. But after a nap didn’t cure it, I remembered something I learned in graduate school. In a mindfulness class, my professor said instead of resisting against a headache, what if we were to do the opposite? What if we were to completely feel the pain instead of avoid it.

Sounds crazy right?

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Best of Our Blogs: August 12, 2011

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  1. Hey Brandi-Ann,
    This is a great post, I’m sure if everyone took the time to dissect a bad day they may find it wasn’t so bad at all. It seems when we choose to focus on the negative, that’s all we get back. Sometimes its hard to tell we’ve put ourselves in that negative mode and pull ourselves out. Being more mindful would be better for anyone facing trouble in their life or like you said how about some….gratitude.

  2. I have been diagnosed with Bipolar/ Alcoholism/ Addiction and am finding it hard to settle on a happy medium. I don’t like that I may have to be on medications for the rest of my life. Nor do I especially like that the psychiatrists who are telling me these things will say to me, “no, I can’t put you on xanax because you’ll become addicted but I will put you on Seroquel, Effexor, and Depakote. They’re non-addictive but you’ll have to be on them for the rest of your life”. What gives?

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