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Best of Our Blogs: July 29, 2011

By Brandi-Ann Uyemura, M.A.
Associate Editor

I think I was about 10 years old when I was astounded by my teacher writing the word “ass” on the chalkboard. She asked the class, “Do you know what assume means? It’s to make an ass out of you and me.”

I didn’t get it until years later. But the phrase stuck with me. I think about it every time I wrongly assume an ambivalent email is a slight or a lack of a response is a rejection. Unconsciously, I take one misunderstanding and assume the worse. As Alanis Morissette says in her song So Unsexy, “One forgotten phone call and I’m deflated.”

Often our assumptions trigger something in us that makes us feel less than. Mark Lesser of Accomplishing More by Doing Less says triggers, “can be survival patterns from past experiences, or habitual ways of responding we’ve acquired to protect ourselves…With awareness, we can gain the ability to choose, at least to some degree, how to respond different than we have in the past.”

It’s not easy to clear up misunderstandings or begin to take responsibility for the ways you unconsciously sabotage yourself. But the alternative, obsessing over emails, worrying over a missed phone call can lead to unnecessary drama and stress in your life.

This week we’re tackling some of these assumptions with posts such as identifying what “health at every size” really means and believing we’re on our own when it comes to panic at our workplace. It’s all great ways to prevent us from looking like asses. Thanks teacher!

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Best of Our Blogs: July 29, 2011

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  1. This was Drilled into us repeatedly by our security licencing training officer and during custodial training….

    particularly during events which have the potential to become violent assumptions have a massive potential to light the fuse…it is important to always take a moment to observe and/or ask what the problem is before stepping in and actually taking action….

    it can mean the difference between talking a group of people down…..and being fatally crowned with a baseball bat.

    • How interesting! I hadn’t thought about the impact of assumptions in other aspects of our lives such as in jobs. Yours is a really good example of the importance of not making any assumptions. I’ll remember it, along with my teacher’s lesson, the next time I automatically assume anything. Thanks for sharing Margaret!

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