The stories you tell yourself about yourself are probably not only untrue, but could be hazardous to your health. This is particularly the case where those “stories” are negative and unconscious.

I’ll share a personal story to explain what I mean.

When I was about 8 or 9 years old, my dad got laid-off from his job. In order to collect unemployment, he needed to show he was actively searching for a job. One week he applied for a job as a courtesy clerk for a local supermarket. He didn’t think he would actually get it nor did he really want it. He assumed being in his thirties and working in management positions prior made him overqualified. But surprise, surprise, he got the job anyway.

He remembers it as one of the most embarrassing days of his life and was ashamed when I saw him bagging groceries into paper and plastic bags.

I remember the day quite differently.

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