We all have difficult people we need to deal with in our lives on a daily basis. While such characteristics may be exaggerations, you may find traits of them in a few of the people in your workplace, amongst your friends, or even a loved …

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6 Difficult Types of People and How to Deal With Them

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  1. This is a super article. So much how-to in it, not just what is. Thank you VERY much!

  2. I have heard that if someone who is angry counts from 1-10 slowly while keeping his fist closed then he can control his anger.

    • I’ve also heard about that and I actually tried it and yes it really does help.

  3. Hey! What if you *are* a “difficult” person?

    I think making categories like this is a disservice to actual people. Put them into a category and then you do not have to think about all the myriad variations in people, how they may be having a bad day — or even if you yourself fit into one of these categories sometimes!

  4. Agree with Pachyderm. As people with mental disorders, we ARE difficult people. Many of us have been victims of this “advice,” which is just the “since you can’t get them totally out of your life” variant of “surround yourself with only positive HAPPY people and don’t allow all those nasty people with problems to radiate their negativity all over your transparently thin skin.”

    • And why do we regular folk have to cater to your ridiculous neurosis? On what planet is okay or even healthy to pretend the problem is our’s – not your’s and have to walk on egg shells lest you lose your sh!t.

      I thought this article was useless simply because it advocates enabling. If somebody is being a complete jerk, I’m not going to shower them with kindness simply to maintain peace. If you have a personality problem, being labeled doesn’t give you a pass to act like a fool and then claim “mental illness.” Rather, if you’re going to own the label, you better recognize it when it’s happening and either learn to control yourself or stay home. In other words, if you stick your finger in my face, expect it to be broken or don’t stick it in my face. Your self-pity and lack of accountability are sickening, as are all people who take to getting loud and billigerent any time they feel challenged. You call it mental illness. I call it immature and trashy.

      • You’re right on that the person with the disability should own it. They can make effort to make the best of their position and be as productive as possible. If someone is given a desk job or higher position, it comes with expectations and standards that apply to everyone at that work place. There can be accommodations but not excuses. I know a co-worker who is trying the best to use the condition for every wrong reason.

      • I appreciate your comment, but have to admit that the different types of complainants listed are just generalisations, there is a bit of all of them in all of us. Shame people dont spend more time trying to put things right instead of wingeing about minor problems imho

  5. its good..atleast it gives us some basic knowledge about how to deal with such kinds of people.thanks.it was a learning experience.

  6. There is a flux of situations which complicate the tagging down of others and ourselves into the pegs. The pegs change in accordance to the different situations, company, time of day, health, moods. We are all changing moods and tolerances, these guides are great as snapshots as to what the current situation.
    We can also be a different person at work and at home and with friends. Good luck with the path walked and awareness and self mastery.

  7. This is very nice article to see and it makes you learn how to deal with different kind of people, even your boss,wife or friend.

    really impressive

  8. Nice article, I would have like to hear more about the complainer and figure a way on how to deal with him on long-term. Let say you have a co-worker that keeps complaining, I understand I have to listen to him, but it has to stop sometime. I can’t keep on working with someone who is always complaining. It will become counter-productive and create a depressive atmosphere.

  9. Well written, full of practical insights and very helpful! Thank you.

  10. I find this article very helpful.I find it really hard to deal with the pretentious-but-not real expert and I hate it when i got angry with them.I just hope this one will help me deal with them without getting angry.

  11. Thanks a lot for this article! I hope that I can get through my work with all those types of people hovering around me the entire week. What a nightmare.

  12. What about the “control freak”, the person that insists on being in the center and controlling all those around them?

  13. Yes, because everyone else is so perfect?

  14. Experts deserve respect? Doesn’t everyone? I’m a little surprised at the suggestions on how to deal with the ‘know it all expert’. Many individuals contribute to a whole in a work environment, a ‘know it all’ generally assumes that their way is the best way – this can be one sided and derogatory. I’d suggest challenging the ‘know it all’ and certainly not becoming anybody’s subordinate ‘helper’ as this article suggests.
    Rise up!

  15. Marykiri- My thoughts exactly!! EVERYONE deserves respect. It doesn’t matter how much you know, how many degrees you have, or how many letters you have after your name, we are all human.

  16. There are plenty of things you can say so you can insult others & make em feel bad.

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