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The 5 Types of Girlfriends You Need In Your Life

By Therese J. Borchard
Associate Editor

The 5 Types of Girlfriends You Need In Your LifeIn her classic book, Gift from the Sea, Anne Morrow Lindbergh articulates the process of gathering girlfriends. She writes,

“I shall ask into my shell only those friends with whom I can be completely honest. I find I am shedding hypocrisy in human relationships. What a rest that will be! The most exhausting thing in life, I have discovered, is being insincere.”

Girlfriends are as unique as the shells Lindbergh describes in her pages. Some have the gift of empathy and compassion, while others challenge us in ways that lead to growth; some friends listen, while others dole out smart advice. Women need different kinds of friendships at different points in their lives. I have compiled these five types of girlfriends, drawing from the examples in Robert Wick’s book, Bounce: Living the Resilient Life, and Susan Shapiro Barash’s book, Toxic Friends: The Antidote for Women Stuck in Complicated Friendships.

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The 5 Types of Girlfriends You Need In Your Life

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  1. I love the idea that we can have a perfect list of types of girlfriend…..but surely it’s not a shopping list and if it is what are we giving to our girlfriends?

    To me girlfriendship is a messy but rewarding way of finding people that you love and relate to, although often only in some aspects.

    I don’t know but this just sounds like a commercial transaction to me.

  2. We love this article. We know exactly what you mean and sometimes one persone can posses a couple of these qualities. The different types of love our friends show to provide strength, wisdom, empathy, courage and a push. Sometimes we cant accept something to be true until someone we trust and respect helps us to open our eyes. Cheers!-PsychedinSF

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