If you are a new dad, guess what research shows is one of the best things you can do to bond with your new baby and make your marriage stronger?
Change his diaper.
Yep… Becoming a new father can be a daunting task, but there are ten things to keep in mind that will help you, your new baby, and your marriage.
1. Time and tolerance.
The most important thing you can do is simply spend time with your newborn. Serious research about fatherhood is only a scant 30 years old, and what we know is that the more time fathers spend with their infants the better. Researchers in the early years of father-infant bonding couldn’t find fathers spending enough time with their infants to study them. In other words, dads weren’t spending an adequate amount of time with their baby to even start measuring the impact. What we know now is that the time you can just be with your infant is valuable.
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“Researchers early on found out that the fathers who helped diapering their baby had stronger, better, and more long-lasting marriages.” That is of course unless she is suffering from some form of delayed PTSS caused by an aborted pregnancy, repressed by a catholic (or like) family philosophy, had a cold father who didn’t have much involvement in child rearing, all uncorked by a GP who decided she was suffering from post partum and scripts her for an AD. THEN what happens is she feels inadequate as a mother and becomes fearful and jealous of the bond you and the baby share. She is not used to seeing a man, the daddy, care for a child with equal zeal as women. The family will criticize her for even letting it happen. She feels angry and jealous of the baby because the child has a great and attentive father that the mother never had. The antidepressants then work to suppress the Super Ego and allow for Id driven behavior the industry doesn’t like to talk about known as “mania”. After an unexplained episode of drunken, violent, irrational behavior that you had never seen before in the years (in some cases decade) prior, you find yourself in divorce court with a judge taking that kid you had built this wonderful bond with away from you all but 8 nights a month because… well because you are the man and women (even as this article would insinuate) make the better and more attentive parent.
I guess I sound a little bitter. You should add one more piece of advice for new dads. Don’t let your “baby mama” take antidepressants. At best they do nothing.