When my grandmother was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s disease more than 10 years ago, I thought my family would fall apart. My mom and her siblings had a few years earlier, lost their father. And now they would inevitably lose their mother in spirit.
At that time, I was in my early twenties and had the luxury of never really knowing the woman my family was afraid of losing. I took that opportunity to really be with her, get to know her and listen to what she had to say when she could say it. Those moments would prove valuable to me. After she was unable to live by herself, my family moved her to a care home. Although she couldn’t remember who I was when I visited, she would always remember my name. She would often count me as one of her daughters instead of her granddaughter.
Her social worker believed that she remembered me because of all those moments I spent with her before. She said, “The heart remembers what the mind forgets.” In my heart, I believe that too.
My grandmother is still alive and living in a care home. She rarely talks and sleeps more than she is awake. But I believe she’s still there, a quiet spirit in a confused body, willing us to remember that she’s still there.
My relationship with my grandmother is why one of our top posts this week really hits home for me. If you know someone suffering from Alzheimer’s disease or dementia, watch the video, it may bring you hope too.
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(Channel N) – In this informative and hopeful video, Dr. John Zeisel, President and Co-founder of Hearthstone Alzheimer’s Care, and author, explains what dementia is and how we can connect with those with Alzheimer’s and dementia. Would you be surprised to find out that one of the ways they are doing so is through gardening?
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True. The heart remembers what the mind forgets. I suffered from a severe head trauma and there are phases and people in my life that I forget. And when I meet people I formerly known, I could instantly tell the relationship we had but can’t identify the person’s name or how we met. I feel for all patients of Alzheimer’s. Your grandma sure do love your visits although they can’t quite remember you.
Hi Kristina!
Thank you so much for sharing your amazing story! It means a lot to know that those who can’t remember details, can remember the heart and sentiment of those they love. And I do feel that way too, that my grandma knows I’m there even though she doesn’t say so. Thanks!
Sorry about your grandmother, but I’m glad the video gave you new hope.
Thanks so much Sandra, for your comment and for finding this inspiring and hopeful video!