I detest love lyrics. I think one of the causes of bad mental health in the United States is that people have been raised on love lyrics. - Frank Zappa
Since more marriages in the United States fail rather than succeed, it is clear that most people have unrealistic expectations and lack the skills necessary to maintain a good relationship.
What goes into being in love? Is it love at first sight, or something else?
In the January/February 2010 issue of Scientific American Mind, Robert Epstein outlines a series of exercises which emphasize vulnerability and which research has shown to enhance feelings of love.
Here’s what we know about mutual gazing, bungee jumping, and arranged marriages.
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I think it was a therapist who once suggested to me to turn the lyrics of a love song on myself. e.g. – “I can’t live; if living is without meeee…”
“I am the sunshine of my life…” …you get the drift!
If I’ve experienced a recent break-up or just don’t feel good about myself, I might spend the morning in the kitchen making breakfast while crooning a ton of lovesongs to myself, with ME as the subject. Sounds narcissistic, but actually, if you try it, you’ll see how healthy and how much more sense it makes! And it’s super-fun, too!
I’d like to encourage everyone to try it – you’ll like it! (Once you get over your initial embarrassment).
Thanks for a great post!
Zoë
Psych Central Blogger, ADHD: from A to Zoë
I think it was a therapist who once suggested to me to turn the lyrics of a love song on myself. e.g. – “I can’t live; if living is without meeee…”
“I am the sunshine of my life…” …you get the drift!
If I’ve experienced a recent break-up or just don’t feel good about myself, I might spend the morning in the kitchen making breakfast while crooning a ton of lovesongs to myself, with ME as the subject. Sounds narcissistic, but actually, if you try it, you’ll see how healthy and how much more sense it makes! And it’s super-fun, too!
I’d like to encourage everyone to try it – you’ll like it! (Once you get over your initial embarrassment).
Thanks for a great post!
Zoë
Psych Central Blogger, ADHD: from A to Zoë