Try as I might, I could not think of a time when a childhood argument ended a friendship. Can you?

I remember squabbles over crayon colors and anger over sharing toys, but that’s it. There’s no recollection of arguments going longer than a day. In fact, what is embedded in my memory is a lot of moments when a heated fight one day was immediately forgotten the next.

Why then, as adults, do we hold grudges and find it so hard to forgive?

Is it that life suddenly gets more complicated? Is it because knowing more about life makes it harder to forgive transgressions? Or are the wounds deeper and the hurts greater?

Whatever the answer, one thing’s for sure, forgiveness heals our own hearts more than anything else. So if you’re in the process of trying to forgive someone, you’ll love one of our top posts this week. We’ve also got posts on dealing with stress and depression. It’s five posts that will help you heal old wounds, deal with stress, get tools on coping with depression and more. Enjoy!

Refusing to Forgive: 9 Steps to Break Free

(Mindfulness & Psychotherapy) – It may be difficult to imagine forgiving someone who has hurt you. But consider this. Studies have shown that forgiveness is not about condoning bad behavior, but doing something wonderful for yourself and your well-being. These nine steps could help you break free from the anger you harbor for someone you can’t forgive.

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