Psychologist and mental health blogger Elisha Goldstein quotes a favorite author of mine, Don Miguel Ruiz, in his post “4 Steps to Getting Free from Limiting Beliefs”: “You see everything is about belief, whatever we believe rules our existence, rules our life.”
I’ve been using Ruiz’s book, “The Four Agreements,” to help me process the beliefs of others, especially toward me (i.e. “people who struggle from depression are lazy”). But Elisha is right when he explains that the beliefs we hold about ourselves are just as disabling and disempowering as the ones other folks hold about us.
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As someone who is just about to complete an Ironman triathlon, I can honestly say that limiting beliefs have to be oversome by intrinsic motivation, ie motivation which comes from within. Here motivation is driven by an interest or enjoyment in the task itself. It’s dependent on:
* being able to attribute the end result to internal factors that you can control (e.g. the amount of effort you put in),
* a belief that you can influence the desired goals (i.e. the results are not determined by luck),
* how interested you are in mastering a topic, rather than just rote-learning to achieve a result: in other words, you need a deep understanding of the topic to be successful.
When training for an Ironman the desire to beat a previous personal best, some of the competition and the cheers of the crowd are all extrinsic and much less effective.
“You can have anything you want if you will give up the belief that you can’t have it.” – Dr. Robert Anthony quote
THIS IS SO SPOT-ON! Greet all things with love and compassion. Drive all blame into one, the Buddhists would say. Put your sorrows in the love pot and let them stew until love is all there is! YES!