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Shh…Create a Love that Lasts Forever with These Secret 5 Steps!

Monday, June 30th, 2014

3 Ways 'Love' Benefits Your Health

Make your partner feel good and don’t forget the little things.

Developing the secure, fulfilling bond you deserve with your partner is hard work, but it is not impossible. Below are five characteristics of every strong bond and what you can do to help create a deep, loving connection.

Conscientious People Might Use More ‘Filler Speech’ (Um, You Know)

Sunday, June 29th, 2014

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Turns out it isn’t what you say — but how you say it, that matters.

There aren’t many guys roaming the earth who’d honestly define their type as the superficial and super-naïve Cher Horowitz from Clueless. The valley-girl persona has always been associated with a narrow world view and, well, talking like you’ve hiked up the Kardashian hill has always made you look a little stupid.

But apparently, all that’s about to change. According to new research published in The Journal of Language and Social Psychology, people who use “filler speech” are actually more conscientious than we’ve ever given them credit for.

Twenty-Somethings and Love: 10 Lessons to Learn ASAP!

Wednesday, June 25th, 2014

3 Therapy Exercises to Help Couples Connect

Let’s bust some terrible ideas!

People in their twenties are full of life and promise, and that’s a great thing. But they are also full of some lousy ideas about love.

So let’s take a moment to educate ourselves on the things we need to know, and the misconceptions we need to drop, ASAP.

Expert Advice: 4 Great Tips for a Lasting Relationship

Sunday, June 22nd, 2014

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A round-up of love advice from the pros.

There are so many people who are either looking for love or are constantly talking about how to save their relationships. I remember having many of those conversations with friends. We were all either in difficult relationships or had been single for a long time.

We all knew that we needed to work on ourselves first, but none of us were really sure what the key to a great relationship was. Some felt that great sex could always bring the relationship to a place of connection; others thought that meaningful communication was the answer. And when both of those tactics failed, then there were those who believed in using outside assistance (such as therapists or coaches) for support.

One-Night Stands: 5 Shocking Facts About the Science of Hooking Up

Monday, June 16th, 2014

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See the surprising ways your brain (and your hips) play a role in your casual sex encounters.

It’s a familiar scene: a thriving nightlife, a club or maybe a wine bar where glasses are clinking and singles are mingling before drifting off into the shadows — two by two. It’s not the perfect picture of romance, but when you’re caught up in the moment, a warm body feels like a fair substitute for love, right?

Hooking up is just a reality of the dating scene. But since when did the hookup scene become the place to find love? While you may think you’re just living the carefree single life, your brain is influencing your decisions more than you might want to admit.

Life Lessons: One Father’s Open Letter to His Graduating Son

Sunday, June 15th, 2014

How to Overcome 3 Common Barriers to Success

Some words of wisdom from a father to his son.

Tomorrow you are graduating from high school and preparing to move on to what’s next. It is a surreal moment for me, both as a parent and as a man. In watching you over these last 18 years, I have seen clearly that you have accomplished so much: as a young man, as an actor and as a human being.

Your efforts and grades reflect your unwavering dedication to achievement, and your wanting the best out of life. You have internalized and demonstrated critical lessons in discipline, planning, focus and tenacity. You are on your way.

Feeling Sad? Try These 5 Ways to Feel Happy Instead

Saturday, June 7th, 2014

Active and happy senior woman running at the beachHow to find enduring happiness in your life.

Is it possible to be happy and sad and the same time? This might sound like a trick question, but it really is not. The answer to the question lies in understanding that there are at least 2 ways to understand what happiness is.

The first way of understanding happiness takes happiness to be the opposite of sad. Here we are talking about how you are feeling at the moment, and what your emotional state of the moment is.

Couples Therapy: 6 Exercises You Can Try at Home

Thursday, June 5th, 2014

Couple embracingTips and tricks to work it out before moving out.

We’ve all watched enough reality television to know things could be a lot worse with our relationships. Angry yelling matches, threats of divorce and even drinks to the face can occur. But couples therapy isn’t just for the dysfunctional pair.

Maybe your relationship hasn’t reached Marriage Boot Camp level, but that doesn’t mean some healthy exercises won’t benefit you in the long run. In fact, you’d be surprised how you can replicate these professional exercises without ever leaving your house.

The Science of Love: 9 Ways Being in Love Affects Your Personality

Friday, May 30th, 2014

Couple in loveFrom boosting happiness to making you less judgmental, here’s how head-over-heels transforms you.

Love makes us all walk around like giant goof balls. We’re smiling for no reason. We’re asking people how their days are just so they’ll ask us back and we can sigh and say things have never been better. It makes us wake up in the morning and want to get out of bed and want to say hello to the brutal morning and want to be the greatest version of ourselves.

But as great as it makes it, it also makes us crazy.

Kiss, Kiss! 7 Healthy Perks to Puckering Up

Wednesday, May 28th, 2014

Couple Kissing and Laughing Outside

Your mom always said that you have to kiss a lot o’ frogs before you meet your prince … but whoever said that was a bad thing? From burning calories to offsetting signs of aging, it turns out that smooching has scientifically-proven health benefits.

So go ahead — pucker up!

4 Ways to Stop Being Needy and Start Being Confident

Saturday, May 24th, 2014

Embracing A New Relationship With An Old Flame

Are you coming across as needy or confident? Find out!

Trust me, you need to read this article. Why? Because I was that needy girl. Fine on the first date, content if I was not that into him, but as soon as I liked him I fell apart. I did not know what to say, how to behave and bit by bit that gorgeous guy smiling across from me would disappear.

To make matters worse, the more I would not hear from him, the more I would blow up his phone asking him where he was, what he doing, when he wanted to meet. I know I am not the only one who does this, so if I am talking to you, my hope is that this article can give you some insight.

Our Love of Guidance: Why We Crave Relationship Advice

Friday, May 23rd, 2014

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We treasure relationships, making us willing to approach them with an open mind.

Most of us, both men and women, are having an affair with guidance and counsel: In short, we love advice for relationships.

We read blogs, we ask our friends (well, if we’re female … guys mainly just grunt at each other), we page through magazines and we, in times of desperation, even turn to our parents.

There’s no doubt about it: We adore advice for relationships so much that we seek it out wherever we can find it.

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