Marriage and Divorce

Answer These 5 Questions Before Heading to Couples Counseling

Get answers BEFORE you get help.

For many couples, the idea of bringing a third party into their intimate relationship is scary -- or just plain out of the question. Luckily, the stigma associated with couples therapy is well on its way out. Healthy couples are enlisting counseling professionals to help work through sticky patches, large and small, and are better for it.

Still, it can truly be tricky getting started. Here are tips we've collected, straight from YourTango Experts, to help you decide if counseling is for you -- how to talk to your partner about it, maximize your experience and make sure it's working once you get there.

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Brain and Behavior

Banish Negative Thoughts Forever

Makes a lot of sense.

When you've hit your lowest low, bouncing back on your feet often seems impossible. You're not where you want to be professionally, mentally or physically, and it's really starting to get you down.

But that doesn't mean you have to let yourself fall deeper into a pattern of destructive thoughts. Sometimes, it may feel easier to wallow in your funk but the truth is that it isn't healthy, and will only make things worse.
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The Harsh Reality of Raising a Teen Addict

I can never protect him from the real threat -- the threat of an addictive brain.

After more than 24 hours of labor, I'm exhausted and barely awake; yet, I recognize the baby screaming from the nursery as my own. I'm a mom. The nurses bring him to me to soothe him. He continues to scream as I try to latch him to my breast.

"You've got a fighter there," the nurses tell me.

And at barely a day old, the fight begins.

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7 Fun Steps that Lead to ‘Happily Ever After’

You decide how the story of your life is told.

One of the most powerful acts of self-care you can make is owning your life story. This core story is your personal narrative, based on the ideas you've collected and internalized about yourself, your experiences and the world around you.

This is the story that lives at the center of your being -- the story that influences every aspect of your life. It colors everything you do in life (what you believe you're capable of, whether you believe you're worthy or not, the meaning you assign to interactions with others, your levels of personal happiness, etc.).
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Children and Teens

10 Tips for Supporting Children Through a Spouse’s Mental Illness

A parent's mental illness can leave a child feeling scared and unstable.

Dad's mood changes. The whole household feels the effects. Everyone quickly switches gears, puts on their best behavior, and attempts not to cause any waves. Mom tries to put on a happy face and hopes that the kids don't notice. Nobody mentions this change in mood, but the tension in the household is obvious.

Everyone quietly distances himself and waits for the storm to pass. The adults understand what is happening, but the kids are left to draw their own conclusions. They begin to wonder why mom and dad are acting differently. Why is dad so sad, or so angry? Why won't he play outside like he used to?
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Marriage and Divorce

How to Deal with Loving a Commitment-Phobe

It's about you.

Have you ever been in a relationship where you're trying to paint the picture of how things COULD be to the other person? We've all been there. We've all had relationships where we're selling the beautiful picture. We're selling our picture, but the other person isn't interested. He/she just sits there and listens but doesn't buy the picture.

It's not that he/she doesn't love you or doesn't want to be with you. It's just that a lot of times when we're selling what we want, but isn’t right for the other person.
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5 Ways to Keep Big Goals from Spoiling Everyday Happiness

What happens when achieving that big goal feels like a big letdown?

Keep your eye on the goal? Visualize your win? That's the secret to success, yes?

But what if you don't exactly feel the "thrill of victory" after the big win? What if success leaves you feeling empty or unhappy -- like you're missing out on something more? Perhaps you even feel a dose of guilt that you don't feel happier when you have so much going for you!

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Debunking 11 Domestic Violence Myths

Know the facts.

"If anything is truly equal opportunity, it is battering. Domestic violence crosses all socioeconomic, ethnic, racial, educational, age and religious lines." - K. J. Wilson, author of When Violence Begins At Home.

Sadly, a US Department of Justice study indicates that approximately one million violent crimes are committed by former spouses, boyfriends, or girlfriends each year, with 85 percent of the victims being women.

For domestic violence to be defeated, it must begin with information. Here are eleven myths and facts about domestic violence.

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