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Break the “Busy”ness Cycle: Live with More Intention

Sunday, April 27th, 2014

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Is the daily routine of life getting you down? Find your passion and live a more authentic life!

Do you ever have those times when you have been on the go non-stop trying to stay on top of all your responsibilities and get all the necessary things on your “to do” list accomplished — and then it hits you like a ton of bricks? You don’t have one more ounce of energy to keep going. You feel so stressed and overwhelmed from all the “busy”ness that you start losing things, forgetting things, your fuse with family, friends and co-workers is short and it feels like things are unraveling quickly?

9 Tips to Navigate Common Stages of Divorce

Thursday, April 24th, 2014


Are you facing divorce? Design your own strategy for navigating the common stages of divorce. Have you passed through all the stages of love and decided you’re ready to end your relationship and surrender to divorce? Do you wonder what you’ll go through and what it will all mean?

While every relationship is unique, there are common stages of divorce. Knowing how to navigate them will help you reach a more peaceful resolution.

Stop the Drama: 3 Reasons Facebook Is Ruining Your Life

Wednesday, April 23rd, 2014

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A recent article detailing Facebook’s role in the demise of women’s self-esteem came as no surprise. Facebook is after all, the villain in our lives. It is a virtual bulletin board of our possessions, a bragging battle ground and an undercover detective’s most prized tool.

Is Facebook the root of the dramatics in your own life? Here are four different kinds of drama’s that can spark from Facebook — have you been a witness to any of these?


Understanding Oxytocin, the ‘Love Hormone,’ & Its Effects on Pain

Friday, January 24th, 2014

Understanding Oxytocin, the 'Love Hormone,' & Its Effects on PainWhat occurs when we defy the body’s natural ability to begin the process of labor and to secrete peak levels of oxytocin, the hormone of love?

Studies have shown oxytocin’s role in reducing pain. For instance, Beverly Whipple, professor emeritus at Rutgers University and a famed author/ sexologist found that when women masturbate to orgasm, “the pain tolerance threshold and pain detection threshold increased significantly by 74.6 percent and 106.7 percent respectively.”

Furthermore in an interview with Wired magazine another colleague from Rutgers University psychology Professor Barry Komisaruk, said, “We’ve seen that there is a strong inhibition of the response to pain during orgasm.”

“What that leads us to think is there is some kind of very important interaction between the orgasmic experience and the pain experience.”

Why People In Happy Relationships Don’t Worry About Being Right

Sunday, January 19th, 2014

Why People In Happy Relationships Don't Worry About Being RightWhen Kanya was in grad school, she had a professor who used to ask if students would prefer to be happy or right.

At the time, she was young and still valued being right above all else. Now, with time and experience behind her, she realizes that being happy is much more important than being right.

Kanya’s figured it out, but this question plagues many relationships. The question for couples is: How do we get over our natural desire to be proven right in the face of conflict?

Do You Ever Want to Cry in Public? It’s Okay

Tuesday, January 14th, 2014

Do You Ever Want to Cry in Public? It's OkayI see women rushing for perfection and flawlessness all the time, but especially during important moments — like their child’s birthday — as they stress to get it all right.

What is that all about? Why do we feel a need to be perfect?

It’s so exhausting, and I say it’s time to enjoy life while openly embracing the state of being less than perfect.

See, as women, we have been conditioned to be brave and told we can’t show vulnerability or weakness. Maybe it’s finally time to let the world see us sweat, because hiding our feelings in case they offend someone is hardly satisfying.

We’re told that crying — and especially crying in public — is weak or wrong. But it’s not, and here’s why.

Masters of Sex: What is Surrogate Partner Therapy?

Friday, January 10th, 2014

Masters of Sex: What is Surrogate Partner Therapy? As a psychotherapist, working with and specializing in sex and sexuality, I have had the honor of working with and observing the highly effective and life changing therapeutic process known as Surrogate Partner Therapy.

What is Surrogate Partner Therapy, you ask?

Well you may have seen the movie The Sessions, and perhaps the Showtime series Masters of Sex, and if so, you might have a basic idea already of what it is.

But as TV and film can be limited, its important to know there’s a lot more to the ideas behind this therapy.

How Do You Recover from Dating a Narcissist?

Sunday, January 5th, 2014

How Do You Recover from Dating a Narcissist?Have you ever felt distraught or found it hard to move on after dating someone who was self-centered? If so, your partner might have been a narcissist, or a person with narcissistic tendencies.

A narcissist is arrogant and expects special treatment — whether or not he or she does things to warrant it. If you’re wondering whether your partner could have been a narcissist, it helps to know these basic traits. In this article, you will learn how to regain your confidence and put your life back on track after dating a narcissist or someone with these tendencies.

The Science of Love & Matchmaking

Thursday, January 2nd, 2014

The Science of Love & MatchmakingWhen we say “there’s just something about her,” or the Beatles sing “something in the way she moves,” that something has a name. It’s called “science.”

What was once unknowable, science is making huge strides in uncovering. We can’t predict completely who you’ll fall in love with, but we’re a lot closer than calling it “chemistry,” although for the most part, that’s exactly what it is.

7 Tips for Sharing Your Pregnancy with Friends Coping with Infertility

Sunday, December 29th, 2013

7 Tips for Sharing Your Pregnancy with Friends Coping with InfertilityTelling people that you are expecting a new family member is one of the exciting things you get to do when you’re early in your pregnancy. When you announce your pregnancy to family and friends, you expect people to jump up and down, to drench you in love, hoorays, and congratulations.

However, if you have friends or family members that are suffering with infertility, there is a good chance that your pregnancy announcement will be a gigantic, painful blow to them.

It’s not that they are angry with you or not happy for you. But when someone is dealing with infertility, every pregnancy announcement reminds them of what they don’t have.

3 Suggestions to Share to Help Your Stressed Out Teen

Sunday, December 22nd, 2013

3 Suggestions to Share to Help Your Stressed Out TeenAs adults we sometimes forget that being a teenager comes with some really big stresses. Reflecting back to my teen years, I remember the huge weight I felt on my shoulders as I attempted to juggle my personal life, home life, chores, homework, and social events (and the stress attached to what I was wearing, makeup, things to say).

It was truly overwhelming.

Then as adulthood sets in, those stresses seem to disappear and other things start surfacing.

When adult stress sets in, we tend to forget about what it felt like being a teen. So here are three things you might want to try and share with your teen.

Which is More Important: Chemistry or Compatibility?

Saturday, December 21st, 2013

Which is More Important: Chemistry or Compatibility?Which is more important in a relationship: chemistry or compatibility? Or are they equally important? Do men and women have different standards for chemistry and compatibility? Let’s begin with the latter.

In my experience as a dating coach, most women will give men a chance (or two or three), unless they are totally turned off on a first date. The majority of women in my practice are interested in an emotional and intellectual compatibility first and a physical compatibility/chemistry second.

The men I’ve polled usually judge a woman’s date-ability by how physically attracted they feel on the first date. If they feel chemistry, there is a second date. No chemistry? Next!

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