If you've experienced depression after intercourse, you aren't alone.
According to a study published in the International Journal of Sexual Health, one in three of more than 200 young women surveyed have experienced "post-coital dysphoria" or "post-sex blues" following intercourse -- even satisfactory intercourse.
One would assume that following great sex, we're all left feeling spent, relaxed, rested and satiated. On the contrary, some of us feel great distress, want to curl up in a ball and cry for no apparent reason. Because there's very little research surrounding this condition, it's not easy to explain, and it's challenging to diagnose.
You'd be surprised at everything you DON'T know.
Depression isn't just about being unhappy about something or feeling blue. It's a legitimate and very serious medical condition with many emotional, physical, behavioral and cognitive symptoms. It isn't inevitable for anyone living in the modern world, and it also doesn't mean that you're a bad or weak person if you suffer from depression.
Music is medicine.
Scientists call it "anecdotal evidence," but you hear the stories all the time: Classical music makes you smarter; distance runners use music for enhanced endurance; some songs boost your happiness. Other just put you in the mood.
We know music is powerful, but let’s leave the "why" aside for a moment. Here are 7 ways music rocks your world:
Do not let their cruel or careless comment slide!
Does your husband or wife regularly make jokes at your expense, or take cheap-shots at you in front of others? It hurts, doesn't it? It can feel earth-shaking and downright humiliating when your partner puts you down (however playfully) in front co-workers, family or friends.
Regardless of your culture, socio-demographics, income, religion, or the fact that this behavior is common among millions of couples, your feelings still matter. And the behavior is not OK if it doesn't feel OK to you.
Self-centeredness and self-confidence are often confused with narcissism. It's true that "people who have an inflated sense of self" are narcissists. However, asking your favorite arrogant friend this one question will help you determine whether or not they're actually a narcissist.
Fighting late into the night is just disaster waiting to happen.
Sometimes, when it comes to relationship advice, what we take as common sense is really just a bunch of pie-in-the-sky crap! I call it crap because it's too idealistic or just ignorant of how people's minds, bodies and hearts really work.
For example: Take the whole idea that couples should never go to bed angry.
Now, I'll be honest with you, I used to believe this is a great rule to live by. But, that was back when I was in a relationship that lacked passion -- including the passion to argue.
It takes effort.
The search for happiness is a popular psychology topic and the consensus of several gurus has been that we humans are wired to be most content when our lives are focused on love and work. Love can mean all forms of intimate social interaction, and work can mean any regular organized effort toward a valued goal.
One promising way to maximize happiness is to strive, together, toward the valued goal of improving the most intimate relationship in your life. Learning how to make one another happy can be seen as a valued goal for anyone in relationships.
Happiness is not a destination you reach; it's a mindset you embrace, right now...today!
If you're like most people, you think happiness is a destination -- and that, of course, YOU have a one-way ticket there.
You might also believe that happiness comes with having everything you want. But thinking this way can really mislead us and results in us looking for happiness in all the wrong places while comparing ourselves against impossible ideals.
Sometimes a good cry is the best thing EVER!
"Unhappiness can't stick in a person's soul when it's slick with tears." - Shannon Hale, Princess Academy
Ever feel so stressed out, so overwhelmed, or so mad at your partner (or at life) that you just wanted to cry?
Of course you have! We all have! But unfortunately, most of us don't let ourselves actually cry in those moments.
There's a good chance that no matter how horrible you're feeling, you probably don't often succumb to that lump in your throat. Instead you find yourself hoping the moment -- and those uncomfortable feelings -- just pass on their own. (Just focus on "positive thoughts" and happiness, right?)
I'm deeply ashamed about these things I did.
Just a couple of short weeks ago, I celebrated being clean and sober for 31 years. Yes, it's been a long time, which can make it very easy to dissociate with the addiction-riddled man I was all those years ago.
Don't get me wrong, that's not entirely a bad thing. I don't want to live in the constant memory of who I was then and the things I did in my addicted years. I got sober to save my life, and I stay sober to have a life. My present is very good, so I don't live in the past.
Enough about me! What do you think about me?
If you have the tendency to make every conversation about you, you might be a conversational narcissist and not even know it.
I used to have this friend from school named Geoff who was very smart, political, funny, and had incredibly high energy. We'd talk on the phone all the time ... and the conversation would always be about him.