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10 Telling Signs You’re an Emotionally Intelligent Person


Emotionally intelligent people are the best people.

Emotionally intelligent people are the advice-givers among their group of friends. Do you have a friend who seems to know what you're feeling before you've verbalized it? This friend is emotionally intelligent. There are many of those people in the world. They are the healers, the untrained therapists among friends.

"Oh, ask Stacy. She always knows what to do." Stacy is emotionally intelligent. That's why she knows what your boyfriend is thinking having never had more than a five-minute conversation with the dude.
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Anxiety and Panic

The Surprising, Deeper Reason Introverts Avoid Small Talk


It ALL makes sense now.

I'm definitely an introvert. It's not that I constantly sit by myself in a corner and never talk to people. I can be social, but I also get overwhelmed in social situations. I'm famous for leaving parties early.

I enjoy spoken word and comedy shows, so I'm forced to go out and see people. Often times, I'm required to speak to people before or after a show and make small talk. Small talk isn't my jam. I've crossed the street to avoid talking to people.
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Inspiration & Hope

3 Ways Confident Women Take On the World


Stop making your life so miserable.

I don’t know any woman who doesn’t want to feel successful in her life -- be it work, relationships, finances, family, etc. But often, the very pursuit of that success makes us, as women, feel miserable. Why?

Perhaps we’re never satisfied with what we have in life because we’re too busy defining "success" by someone else’s standards... instead of our own!

Women are sometimes ruthless in their judgment of each other, only validating someone else’s success if it validates our own -- breastfeeding moms against non, working moms against stay-at-home moms, married women against single women, women with children against women without children, etc.
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Happiness

A Little Dose of Perspective Can Lead You to Eternal Optimism


It's not what you think it is.

Anyone who knows me in real life (or even who's connected with me on social media) will tell you that I'm somewhat of an eternal optimist, for better or worse. I choose to live my life looking at the silver lining. Searching for the "frosting" on the cake. Looking at the bigger picture.

On many occasions, people have asked me how I stay so positive all the time. The truth, the real truth, is that I don't.
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Personality

Research Explains Link Between Romantic Rejection and Sense of Self


One of the most annoying things you can hear when you're dealing with a breakup is "Just let it go." You know you need to move on and get over the heartbreak, but you also need to process those feelings.

Some people are better than others at living a life post-breakup and are more successful at not bringing the rejection and pain they felt from the breakup into their next relationship. But people have a more difficult time releasing the rejection, because it's revealing something about who they really are as a person, new Stanford research has discovered.

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Health-related

6 Ways Texting Can Psychologically Damage You


Seriously. Put your phone down.

Did you know that phones used to be used for making phone calls? Weird, right? People didn't text; they didn't even have any kind of keyboard on their phone.

Calling someone used to be the way that most people communicated with others not in their immediate vicinity. Now, we text. Constantly.

Texting is the preferred way of communicating for many of us. The problem is that texting is actually screwing up our lives. Luckily, an
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Anxiety and Panic

8 Amazing Changes When You Cut Negativity from Your Life


Positivity FTW.

We all know the "meh" people of the world: The ones who complain about everything, never see the good in anything, and think that sharing any sort of happiness will "jinx" whatever it is they secretly want (just not enough to infuse it with the joy and gratitude it deserves).

If you've found yourself engaging them (or scarier, joining them), you know that while
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Antidepressant

This Is Why Taking Antidepressants Makes Me a Better Mother


It wasn't until I had visions of smothering my five-month-old daughter that I knew I needed help.

I've struggled with depression since I was 15 years old, and I've tried to effectively treat that depression for 16 years and counting. I've tried talk therapy, cognitive behavioral therapy, and light therapy. I've tried changing my diet, changing my job, sleeping more, and drinking less. I've tried prayer, meditation, yoga and running, and I've tried more medications than you can imagine: Wellbutrin, Zoloft, Paxil and even Depakote. And while some things have worked and others haven't, one thing I'm certain of is that antidepressants make me a better person.

Also: I'm a better mom because of medication.
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Anger

3 Ways Fighting Can Actually Help Your Relationship

Have it out! It's good for you.

There's something wholesome and good to be said for couples that never ever fight with each other -- I just don't know what it is. That hasn't been my experience so I really can't say whether that makes any particular love affair better.

My guess is that couples who never argue or have it out are probably building up a good head of steam inside themselves. Human nature -- even for the most zen among us -- seems to dictate that we speak our minds rather than bite our lips. The world doesn't move forward on the backs of lip biters.
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Happiness

Here’s Your 5-Step Guide to Taking Life Chances


You can HANDLE this!

The very thought of a life-changing decision brings chills to most of us, yet from the moment we are born, we keep taking these big steps toward change. Some of us feel a ton of stress and think through everything, and others jump blindly into the unknown.

Sometimes we make risky decisions, not because we believe we can do it, but because someone else is so confident in us so much that it makes us believe too. Other times we go for it because we just can’t bare the situation we’re in anymore and we have to believe that there’s something better on the other side.
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Habits

5 Simple Tricks to Bring Major Happiness to Your Life


Want to change your life? Start here.

Change can be a great thing. A new routine or a new perspective can really revitalize your life and sense of well-being.

But what about the times when change presents a challenge? How can you build up your energy and joy when changes in your life leave you feeling drained?

The truth is that you can easily bolster your happiness in your everyday life. Better yet, when you’re connected to your sense of joy, you’re better equipped to work with change when it comes your way.
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