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Know What Makes You Happy? 3 Tips to Help You Achieve It!

Monday, September 15th, 2014

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You already know what to do to increase your happiness. Now get unstuck and do it!

You know a zillion things you could do to feel better, to increase your happiness and to get more of what you want, and yet you don’t do them.

You want to lose weight but you don’t change what you’re eating. You want to be creative, but you zombie out in front of a computer screen instead. You want a deeper and more fulfilling relationship with your partner, but you avoid talking about what you’re feeling.

5 Divorce Facts That Might Change Your Idea of Splitting Up

Sunday, September 14th, 2014

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Find out how 50 percent of divorcees feel about their separation.

Many people think they have it all figured out when it comes to divorce. The whole “50 percent of marriages end in divorce” statistic gets thrown around a lot. Everyone knows someone whose family was torn apart by it. But there’s so much more to know about ending marriages.

Are You Fighting Fair? 5 Ways NOT to Fight With Your Partner

Wednesday, September 10th, 2014

Why Fighting With Your Spouse Might Save Your Marriage

There’s a reason you aren’t getting along.

Are you finding it difficult to communicate with an ex or with your partner? If so, then this article will shed some light on why you keep having challenging and aggressive conversations.

Below are five critical mistakes I see my clients (and myself!) making to create arguments, spur hatred and disable relationships.

How to Program Your Day with Positive Affirmations

Saturday, September 6th, 2014

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Your words can have a powerful effect on your life. Here’s why you should choose them carefully.

Do you wake up in the morning and think right away, “I need a coffee to start my day. I’m not going to be able to start my day until I have that coffee. I need coffee right now or I can’t do a thing?” The real question is, do you really need coffee or have you programmed your mind to believe that over the years because of your language?

Recently Dumped? Skip the Lies and Tell Yourself This Truth

Tuesday, September 2nd, 2014

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Some men are only after one thing: a power struggle.

Pulling your hair out, perplexed and frustrated as to why the man you love doesn’t seem to reciprocate your unrequited love? After all, you know that no other woman will ever be as caring and loving as you are with him.

Your friends have given up trying to convince you that you’re too good for him. He may have even told you that you deserve better. But despite his lackluster feelings for you, why can’t you stop trying to change him? Why are you holding onto the idea of “I’m the best thing that will ever happen to him?”

5 Ways to Tell if You’re Having an Emotional Affair

Monday, September 1st, 2014

3 Signs Your Relationship is in Trouble

Would your partner really be OK with this?

Successful relationships are built on safety and trust — and a betrayal of that trust can derail a partnership before you know it. Both in the media and in our personal lives, we tend to associate such betrayals with physical affairs; however, an emotional affair, even without sex, can be just as threatening to your relationship.

Money and Relationships: Are You REALLY Fighting About Finances?

Sunday, August 31st, 2014

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Don’t let your money troubles prevent you from having a great relationship.

My husband and I have had countless arguments about money. And we’re not alone; divorce statistics suggest that money is the major cause of most divorces. Suffice it to say that money is a hot topic and one that a lot of relationships struggle with.

However, the source of most of these arguments is not really money. In fact money arguments and stress have three completely different causes.

Relationship Lies: Learn These 4 Dating Myths NOW Ladies

Wednesday, August 27th, 2014

The Secret to Great Relationships of Any Kind

No, you won’t “just know” when you meet the right guy.

Are you totally baffled as to why you only seem to attract men who are far from ideal for you? Are you tired of ending up with men who aren’t ready for the same type of relationship you want?

Before you give up on the possibility of ever meeting a guy who truly measures up, you may want to take a look at how the following so-called “dating rules” may be adversely hurting your chances of finding The One.

Heartbreak Happens: Get Over It!

Friday, August 22nd, 2014

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Don’t let one setback stop you from finding love and happiness in the rest of your life.

Life is a series of events. I want you to look at that statement, and then I want you to read it again. Life is a series of events.

In fact, I want you to read it one more time. Life is a series of events. Read it, and say it aloud to yourself six times. Now that that’s lodged firmly in your head, I want to ask you a question: Why does one event traumatize a person so badly?

5 Tips to Keep ‘Keeping Score’ from Ending Your Relationship

Sunday, August 17th, 2014

How to Start Separating Yourself in a Codependent Relationship

Why holding on to your partner’s mistakes will end up hurting you.

We’ve all been there. Your partner has put you off, let you down or totally messed up so many times, you have a running tally going, and it only fuels your irritation and anger.

One woman posted on Reddit a spreadsheet her husband actually created and sent to her that listed off every excuse she’d given him over the past month for not having sex. He included the date, whether or not they had sex and the excuse she gave. He even provided follow up. When she told him, “I need a shower,” he recorded that she didn’t actually shower until the next day.

Obviously, this couple’s relationship is in trouble. It’s clear that there’s something bugging both of them, and it’s probably not only the fact that they’re not having sex as often as the man would like.

4 Tips for Helping Children with Abandonment Issues

Monday, August 11th, 2014

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4 steps for raising a child who doesn’t feel emotionally stranded.

Your child suffers from abandonment issues.

If you are a nurturing parent, you are probably balking at this statement. Most of us associate abandonment with physical conditions, such as inadequate nourishment, inadequate clothing, physical abuse or literally leaving our child without care. If you provide for the well being of your children, how could they possibly feel “abandoned”?

Want a Divorce? Stop the Emotional Yo-Yo and Be Clear About It

Thursday, August 7th, 2014

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Don’t beat around the bush when asking for divorce.

Sheila had been thinking about it for months and she had talked to her girlfriends about it. They were shocked by her admission — she wasn’t sure she loved her husband Jeff any more.

Her friends were shocked because, even after all these years, Jeff seemed to be hopelessly in love with her. But she just wasn’t hopelessly in love with him anymore. She’d made her decision; she was going to tell Jeff she wanted a divorce.

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