Sure, the thought counts. So think twice.
I have clinical depression. It's been a part of my life since I hit puberty. I have had highs and lows and will continue to have them throughout my life.
I'm an adult, I'm in treatment, and years of it has taught me incredible coping skills.
But that doesn't always make it easy.
Your needs matter, too.
It's a real challenge to be an optimist in today's world. Violence seems ever-present in countries across the globe and in our own communities, too.
At our jobs, we often feel like we're working harder and longer hours with less pay (and our paychecks don't go as far as we'd like them to). On top of all of this, nobody has found a cure for cancer or reversed global warming yet! The list of stress, worries, and woes we all face goes on and on.
So, stop doing that!
Let me ask you a question: Are you trying to wreck your own life? I'm asking because it seems like the only possible explanation for some of the batshit crazy stuff we choose to do.
I’m not pointing fingers. Think of me as the little Monopoly guy in a striped jail bird suit — Guilty as charged! But, I'm going to be blunt here, we all seem to love wreaking havoc on our own lives by clinging to dumb ideas and behaviors that are getting use nowhere.
Does this sound familiar?
A friend I'll call "Ed" kept pushing me to contribute to my school's alumni fund. The more he called me, the more stubborn I felt that my answer was, "No."
I felt that not only did I lack the money necessary to contribute in order to make a true difference, but I also knew whatever I could give would be paltry in relation to what the fund had already accumulated.
Get what you want with less frustration!
It should be simple, really: You ask your child to do something, and they do it!
Getting fellow adults to do as you ask is challenging. But, with ADHD kids — all kids, actually — it is more complex than that. (As you probably know.)
Ask and ye shall receive? Not really! You have to work at it.
Feeling overwhelmed? These tips are a total game-changer.
Are you stressed? I'm not going to tell you to “relax.” Instead, I'll actually show you how to regulate it.
For many people, stress is a daily occurrence. When stress overruns your life, you’re left feeling “stressed out” and depleted. You can’t get enough rest, life “comes at you” super-charged, and your ability to bounce back or be resilient to the everyday challenges of living becomes harder.
We put so. much. effort into the illusion of being fine.
There's a picture saved on my computer that I will probably never show another person. It was taken a few hours before my mother died, at my daughter's insistence, her sweet 4-year-old smile hovering over the planes and angles cancer had carved into my mom's face.
There is a term in psychology known as "cognitive distortion." This is when your mind convinces you that something is true, when it really isn't.
These thoughts are inaccurate and reinforce negative thinking. This is a problem because there is a direct link between what we think and how we feel.
Which means -- you may be dooming yourself and your relationship without even realizing it.
Shut down the Snapchat!
Don't worry -- this is NOT another lecture about how you should put down your phone once in awhile and appreciate the beauty of the world (though that's not such a bad idea)!
Instead, this is simply a cautionary tale about the dark alleys you can end up in when you spend too much of your time on social media.
Just work with me here...
I’ve been having a hard time writing these last couple of weeks. New insurance led to a switch in which particular generic form of my antidepressant I received, and lo and behold, the different one isn’t quite getting the job done.
I’ve been a bit weepy (ok, more than a bit -- pretty much anything involving dads gets me choked up...just happened while I was typing that) and a bit brain-foggy. I'm having a hard time focusing or getting stuff done (sorry if I owe you an email!). And I need to take occasional sobbing breaks while I am also getting hit with intermittent waves of free-floating guilt and paranoia.
Dark moments carry important lessons.
It was a dark moment.
I stood at the edge of an ocean cliff, looking down at the 150 feet of empty space between where I stood and the bottom. I wondered what my last thought would be before my body smashed against the rocks below.
Going about our lives emotionlessly is robotic at best and, at worst, sociopathic.
It's pathetic that the trope of the strong, independent woman who lacks any emotion except intense ferocity is still a thing we subscribe to at all. When strong fictional female characters on screen show compassion, lust or grief, it's considered a "moment of weakness."