General

4 Tips to Feel Safer in a World of Terrifying Violence


You have more control than you think

Even before the shooting in San Bernadino and terrorist attacks in Paris, Beirut and Kenya, were you wondering how to keep yourself and your family safe? It’s often something we ask others -- usually politicians -- to take care of for us, which can, in turn, actually magnify our sense of powerlessness. It’s as if we think personal safety is outside our control.

While some things are beyond our influence, feeling safe begins from within. Appropriate fear is wired into our systems, inherited from our ancestors who had large animals of prey stalking them as food.
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Happiness

New Study Suggests Giving Up Facebook Will Make You Happier

Are you strong enough to take a break?

I'm addicted to Facebook. I don't just go on there once or twice a day -- I'm constantly on there. But there are a lot of things I don't see on my feed, some things (and people) that I've blocked and other content that the Facebook algorithm has randomly decided not to show me.

Still, there's so much on Facebook that I don't want to see and that I wish I'd never seen. If I never see another over-the-top conservative rant from that nice boy from second grade again, or the endless pictures and videos of my middle school friend's son learning how to potty, I'd be forever grateful.
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Anxiety and Panic

The Link Between Temporary Anxiety and Obsessive Cleaning


Interesting.

I have a pattern for cleaning. It's usually when I have people coming over or when I don't want to do something I should do. It's not that I have a sink full of dirty dishes at all times or dust balls the size of raccoons in my living room; I just don't feel inspired to clean unless I know someone is going to see it or if I'm procrastinating and need to channel the energy somewhere.

So it makes sense that a new
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Men

The Top 5 Realities of Dating Someone with a Mental Illness


It's not BAD. Just different.

We've all heard (or have) horror stories about dating people who turned out a little "crazy." Maybe she moved from the "like" stage to the obsession stage too quickly, or maybe he reacted by burning your stuff when you ended things.

But when it comes to talking about potential partners, most people don’t mention how to approach dating someone with a mental illness. This is something that we should definitely be talking about.

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General

7 Coping Skills to Use in the Face of Passive Aggression


Learn how to side-step their toxic behavior and save your sanity.

Is someone's passive-aggressive behavior driving you crazy? You feel the energetic hit of her toxic behavior, but then you question yourself.

The receiving end of passive-aggressive behavior leaves you with a yucky feeling of just being sucker-punched, but because it's subtle, it's hard to know what's actually happening. It's like a nightmare where you try to run away but all you find are cul-de-sacs with no escape.
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Habits

12 Tips to Get Motivated When You’re Stuck in a Life Rut


Don't worry: It's only a temporary rut.

It's common to look at unproductive people and just call them lazy. After all, we all know what laziness "looks" like. We've been lazy ourselves, but it's been a temporary, short-lived condition, and we move on to pursue our goals and dreams with plenty of determination.

But what happens when we lose that determination, and why do we lose it? Have we become one of the "lazy" people we've been so quick to condemn in the past? Or has fear taken over and stopped us dead in our tracks?

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Addiction

How Internet Addiction Almost Ruined My Life


Is my life that attached to the Internet, or was I using it as an escape from life altogether?

It was nearly a decade ago that I transitioned into a career that involved working almost entirely in the digital space, and social media began to take over my life.

Since basically forever, the online world always held a certain siren's call. ICQ and LiveJournal, IRC and Friendster. I illustrated my mood via cryptic AIM status messages, and exhibited deep feelings of hurt when I'd put someone important to me in my MySpace Top 8 and they didn't do the same for me.
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Children and Teens

Teen Depression and Suicide: The Tough Lessons I Learned


There are important warning signs -- knowing them could save someone close to you.

It started out like any other Friday Fall morning. The foliage was slowly turning to stunning yellows, reds and oranges. Workers and students alike were heading off to their respective responsibilities, likely looking forward to the weekend.

And then the devastating and shocking news started to circulate amongst our friends, loved ones and community.

A 15-year-old 10th grader had taken her life.

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Anger

Learn the Top 5 Warning Signs of Verbal Abuse


Is there something seriously wrong in your relationship?

Verbal abuse sneaks into countless relationships. It's something millions of women and men endure on a daily basis. One in four teenage girls in a relationship report that they've been repeatedly verbally abused. One-third of all adults have been called names, and 20 percent have been humiliated in public by their partner.

Verbal abuse is as damaging as physical abuse. Because verbal abuse sufferers don't carry the outside scars and bruises, it can sometimes be hard to distinguish if your loved is suffering. Or perhaps you're the victim and because the damage isn't physical, you may wonder if what you're experiencing is indeed abuse.
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Children and Teens

3 Steps to Rebrand Your Parenting Style with a Teenage Daughter


When she hits the teen years, it's time to re-think your parenting strategy.

My daughter repeatedly doesn’t listen and she refuses to do it my way, even when her way doesn’t make sense.

I'm sure you know that from your girlfriends, Rosie O'Donnell's challenge with her 18-year old, or even your own parenting experience. At some point, your daughter shifts from being your ever adoring princess to your teen adversary. To overcome the challenges with your tween/teen wanna-be adult, you have to shift parenting styles.

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Children and Teens

3 Ways to Help Your Child Turn Mistakes into Success


They can't learn anything if they're not allowed to try and try again.

"Wow, she’s a natural at soccer."

"He's like a math prodigy!"

"Did you see how well she plays the violin? And she’s only five."

Growing up, I was in awe of kids and adults who displayed raw talent in sports, academics, music, and other areas. In fact, I thought such innate, effortless talent was the only path to success.

Don’t get me wrong -- My mom attempted to influence me with the truism: If at first you don't succeed, try, try again.
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Aging

Let Your Childhood Dreams Help You Live an Intentional Life


Chances are, you were on to something about yourself then.

Do you remember taking a careers class when you were a kid? You know, the class that got you thinking about your future employment?

I remember it. It was way back in 9th grade at Penndale Junior High.

I remember wanting to be a commercial artist back then. I was fascinated by typography and calligraphy, and, at the time, that was the only thing I could think of that would bring me happiness and capitalize on those interests.
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