Shut. It. Off.
You've been in overdrive all day -- juggling logistics, people, deadlines, and endless to-dos -- or maybe putting out fires, squeezing in errands, finding lost toys, and making sure you've filled out all the forms for school tomorrow.
All day, you eagerly anticipate finding just 30 minutes to chill out, catch up with your significant other, and relax into sleep.
But the problem is...though your body is ready to plop down on the sofa and decompress, your brain is still going a mile a minute.
It's stuck in "go-go-go" mode. As a result, you're there with your loved ones, but you're not really present. You think, "What's wrong with me? Why can't I relax?"
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Let me ask you something -- Are you tired of hearing everyone talk about "work/life balance" and how important it is to treat yourself with "radical self-care?" Parents get hit with this all the time. It's the new standard for "successful" families (and couples). Right?
Meanwhile, parents everywhere are thinking: Balance? Me time? Sex time? Fun time?...What’s that? Because, even in the moments when having kids seems worth it and you really smile and enjoy precious time together, being a parent is demanding. In fact, with all the stress, worry, housework, errands, activities, and such, living the married life with children feels like a constant juggling act.
Life doesn't listen to your rock star dreams.
Halfway through her recent emotional interview with Ellen DeGeneres, human butt-kicking machine Ronda Rousey started to sob. And it wasn't any of this fake TV ratings junk either.
The 29-year-old began to weep as she recalled her mindset right after she was knocked out while defending her UFC Women's Bantamweight Championship title against Holly Holm in November of last year -- a fight she was wildly favored to win.
"What am I anymore if I'm not this?" Rousey recalled wondering in the locker room immediately following her upset loss. "I'm nothing." She admitted that she seriously thought about taking her own life. What's the point now, she remembered thinking, people will hate me.
My kid wasn't only having tantrums, he was also having panic attacks.
Imagine your child had the inability to focus and sit still with ADHD, the resistance to instruction and discipline of Oppositional Defiant Disorder, the need for routine and order and ritual of Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, and the normal tantrums, developmental struggles and poor impulse control of a typical five-year-old. Oh, plus aggression. A lot of aggression. That's my kid.
You can tell just by their lifestyle choices.
Happiness is meant to be shared, but sometimes the happiest people are too busy living to tell the rest of the world how they got there. Talking about how great life is can also quickly go past humble to just bragging, especially around others who may not be having the best of times.
Happiness can often look like it's luck of the draw or the pull of the longest straw. But whatever it looks or feels like for those who have it -- contentment, overwhelmingly positive emotions, bluebirds and/or sunshine halos around our heads -- there are some specific ways to be happy, even if the most joyful people are too busy digging their lives to talk about it much.
Stop telling yourself it's all your fault.
Do you ever wonder why some people take breakups harder than others? If you find yourself hung up and unable to move on from a recent -- or even distant -- breakup, it could be because of how you internalize rejection.
It’s a common question we ask ourselves after a breakup: what went wrong?
There’s a story you form for yourself as you
Emotionally intelligent people are the best people.
Emotionally intelligent people are the advice-givers among their group of friends. Do you have a friend who seems to know what you're feeling before you've verbalized it? This friend is emotionally intelligent. There are many of those people in the world. They are the healers, the untrained therapists among friends.
"Oh, ask Stacy. She always knows what to do." Stacy is emotionally intelligent. That's why she knows what your boyfriend is thinking having never had more than a five-minute conversation with the dude.
It ALL makes sense now.
I'm definitely an introvert. It's not that I constantly sit by myself in a corner and never talk to people. I can be social, but I also get overwhelmed in social situations. I'm famous for leaving parties early.
I enjoy spoken word and comedy shows, so I'm forced to go out and see people. Often times, I'm required to speak to people before or after a show and make small talk. Small talk isn't my jam. I've crossed the street to avoid talking to people.
Stop making your life so miserable.
I don’t know any woman who doesn’t want to feel successful in her life -- be it work, relationships, finances, family, etc. But often, the very pursuit of that success makes us, as women, feel miserable. Why?
Perhaps we’re never satisfied with what we have in life because we’re too busy defining "success" by someone else’s standards... instead of our own!
Women are sometimes ruthless in their judgment of each other, only validating someone else’s success if it validates our own -- breastfeeding moms against non, working moms against stay-at-home moms, married women against single women, women with children against women without children, etc.
It's not what you think it is.
Anyone who knows me in real life (or even who's connected with me on social media) will tell you that I'm somewhat of an eternal optimist, for better or worse. I choose to live my life looking at the silver lining. Searching for the "frosting" on the cake. Looking at the bigger picture.
On many occasions, people have asked me how I stay so positive all the time. The truth, the real truth, is that I don't.
One of the most annoying things you can hear when you're dealing with a breakup is "Just let it go." You know you need to move on and get over the heartbreak, but you also need to process those feelings.
Some people are better than others at living a life post-breakup and are more successful at not bringing the rejection and pain they felt from the breakup into their next relationship. But people have a more difficult time releasing the rejection, because it's revealing something about who they really are as a person, new Stanford research has discovered.
Seriously. Put your phone down.
Did you know that phones used to be used for making phone calls? Weird, right? People didn't text; they didn't even have any kind of keyboard on their phone.
Calling someone used to be the way that most people communicated with others not in their immediate vicinity. Now, we text. Constantly.
Texting is the preferred way of communicating for many of us. The problem is that texting is actually screwing up our lives. Luckily, an