If you want to support friends, family, acquaintances and strangers suffering from trauma, Rule #1 — Skip the “everything has a purpose” line.
Please don’t place “purpose” on other people’s trauma. Purpose may eventually exist around our devastation, but only because we found it. We worked for it, answered the hard questions, and cried for hours trying to release enough pain to grab hold of it.
Sure, I can see purpose in why God made the sky blue, the grass green, and the sun shine. I can get behind that; but, I don’t believe God somehow expects us to find purpose in our trauma. We can choose, however, to find purpose after we first open ourselves to healing the wound itself.