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5 Ways to Fight and Still Protect Your Relationship

Sunday, March 29th, 2015

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If THIS is how your fights go, the odds aren’t in your favor (says science).

Science confirms that it’s no longer just about how you fight, it’s what you do after the argument that may determine if you’re going to go the distance.

You’ve recently argued with your significant other. Things got more heated than usual, and now all you can think about is how you wish it would have happened.

Maybe you fought dirty or didn’t get a chance to say how you really felt. Maybe the issue is still unresolved, and you don’t know how to reapproach the subject.

4 Warning Signs Marriage Therapists Use to Predict Divorce

Saturday, March 28th, 2015

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Fix these things or get ready to say goodbye.

Well-trained marriage therapists have most likely studied the work of Drs. John and Julie Gottman. The Gottmans have done the most extensive research on marriage and what predicts divorce. He discovered four main predictors, which he terms the “Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse” and they are criticism, contempt, defensiveness and stonewalling.

All relationships have some of these, but if there are more than one present, a marriage therapist may have doubts about the longevity of the relationship.

5 Tips for Facebook-Proofing Your Marriage

Thursday, March 19th, 2015

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Get offline and on with your relationship.

Beware what you say and do online, because it will come back to haunt you later!

Did you know that entire websites are devoted to helping people avoid getting caught flirting and cheating on social media sites like Facebook? This is partly in response to a new trend in divorce proceedings. A recent report says that Facebook is cited as proof of infidelity in about one-third of divorces!

Parenting Advice: Understanding Your Teen’s Cyberlife

Wednesday, March 18th, 2015

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Like it or not, this is the world your kids are living in. You have to learn to live in it, too.

Unlike my parents, I have always had indoor plumbing. I am guessing when they first started putting toilets in homes that more than one person protested. “In the house? Why would you want that in the house?”

However, I never once heard my parents say, “Life was sure a lot better when we had to go outside in the middle of the night.”

When I hear complaints about advancing technology, I think it is a lot like indoor plumbing. It may be questioned at first, but no one is going back to the outhouse.

12 Steps to Knock Out that ‘Out of Control’ Feeling

Wednesday, March 11th, 2015

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Get going! Life’s waiting for you.

It’s that time of year when many people resolve to make changes relating to everything from finance to fitness. Unfortunately, by February, a good majority of us will have settled (un)comfortably back into old habits and will find ourselves feeling just slightly more powerless against our ability to slay the dragons that stand between you and your best self.

If you’re like me and tired of seeing the same promise you made to yourself fall by the wayside, perhaps these tips might help.

6 Ways to Regroup and Reconnect with Your Partner

Monday, March 9th, 2015

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Have you been in a relationship for some time now, yet feel confused because lately you’re plagued with loneliness? Do you spend time remembering those first early months (even years) together when you felt happily connected? It all felt so easy then.

But now? Well, it seems life got in the way. Your life feels so ironic — constantly lonely within a relationship.

5 Reasons Couples Counseling Isn’t Working for You

Sunday, March 8th, 2015

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In the face of looming problems that range from abuse, blending families, to who does the chores, couples are encouraged to seek couples therapy. Yet, what happens when therapy fails to address the problems in a relationship. What options are left?

At the age of 42 with two children in elementary school, Mary Ann Lowry was diagnosed with a chronic pain condition. Lowry explains her husband had a hard time coming to terms with her illness.

“He frequently used verbal abuse to try to convince me to be healthy,” she says. “The therapists tried to help him see that sickness, death, and pain are part of life. He couldn’t come to terms with my physical limitations and despite their best efforts, the therapists weren’t able to break through the hard core resistance to accepting my health situation. When I finally had to leave work and go out on full disability, he was not able to support the decision.”

Beyond the Physical: 6 Signs of Silently Abusive Relationships

Saturday, March 7th, 2015

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Would you even know if you were being abused?

It’s that little voice in the back of your head that whispers “This isn’t right,” and the feelings that tug at your heart, begging your brain to listen to that voice. It’s all those things that you shove down because you are so unsure of yourself, unsure of him.

You wonder: Is this abuse?

5 Warning Signs of Manipulation in Relationships

Wednesday, March 4th, 2015

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The scary thing is: You probably don’t even know it’s happening.

The worst part of being manipulated in a relationship is that quite often you don’t even know it’s happening. Manipulative people twist your thoughts, actions, wants and desires into something that better suits how they see the world and they mold you into someone that serves their own purposes. Scary, right?

Here are a few biggies to look out for to make sure it’s not happening to you:

Longing for Lasting Happiness? Avoid this ONE Word!

Monday, March 2nd, 2015

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Quit “should”-ing all over yourself.

I should get my car washed. I should pay my bills. I should eat less. I should wake up earlier on weekends.

We fill our lives with shoulds and shouldn’ts. Shoulds keep us on the straight and narrow path of responsibility, but do they simultaneously derail us from finding real happiness?

3-Step Plan for Your ‘Why Me?’ Moments

Sunday, March 1st, 2015

A young beautiful woman stressed because of bills.

With a single sentence, life can knock you down. Here’s how to get back up and keep swinging…

Have you ever noticed how a single sentence can feel as if a bomb exploded and life as you know it is irrevocably transformed?

A single sentence like:

  • “It’s cancer.”
  • “You’re fired.”
  • “I’m pregnant.”
  • “I’m leaving you and filing for divorce.”

Suddenly that single sentence, uttered by someone you love or care about, changes your life — derailing your sense of purpose and direction — in an instant.

3 Stress-Busting Tips to Free Your Mind

Friday, February 27th, 2015

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Need to pull yourself back together super QUICK? Here are 3 fixes to ease your mind in no time.

Are you like me? Whenever I read the paper or watch the news and see stories about war, starvation, killing rampages, rape, and other atrocities, I feel anxious and worried. In addition to worrying about the fate of the world, on a personal level, I also sometimes feel frustrated by annoying work or family relationship issues.

Although I try my best to meditate every day to quiet my stress and remember my inner happiness, after 24 hours, I seem to collect a new array of fears or angers.

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