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Beware of She-Wolves

Tuesday, February 11th, 2014

Beware of She-Wolves

A woman becomes a she-wolf out of necessity to survive in the relational jungle of life. She feels that there is no other way to make it through life successfully.

These women are not born that way and may have once been among the kindest of women. It took one or more major wounds to make her vicious.

Anyone who has dealt with a wounded, bitter, and angry woman knows quite well how much harm she can inflict, especially to men.

This is a she-wolf.

7 Steps to Surviving Job Loss

Tuesday, February 11th, 2014


Losing your job hurts.

Companies use fancy terms to describe it – downsizing, reorganization, consolidation, …

Romantic Gestures: Is There a Double Standard?

Tuesday, February 4th, 2014

Romantic Gestures: Is There a Double Standard?When men attempt bold gestures, generally it’s considered romantic. When women do it, it’s often considered desperate or psycho.
~ Carrie Bradshaw (Sex & The City)

In Nicholas Sparks’s The Notebook, we see Noah carelessly hanging from a carnival Ferris wheel. He hopes that his bold gesture will be perceived as daring and romantic, and will therefore solidify a date with Allie, the girl he absolutely had to pursue.

Now, of course that’s an extreme scenario (albeit a fictional one), but that pivotal scene always had me wondering what would have happened if the roles were reversed.

If a girl decided to act in a similar manner, would that be seen (in societal terms) as persistent and vulnerable, with shades of romanticism? Or would she be dubbed as ‘crazy,’ or ‘psychotic?’ My personal opinion is that it’s typically the latter.

Maybe You Should Make a Relationship Resolution

Monday, January 27th, 2014

Maybe You Should Make a Relationship ResolutionAt the beginning of every year, millions of people make New Year’s resolutions — everything from losing weight to saving money or spending more time with their families. Unfortunately, these resolutions often are forgotten by February.

However, there is one resolution that’s rarely heard: “Let’s work on our relationship.”

Understanding Oxytocin, the ‘Love Hormone,’ & Its Effects on Pain

Friday, January 24th, 2014

Understanding Oxytocin, the 'Love Hormone,' & Its Effects on PainWhat occurs when we defy the body’s natural ability to begin the process of labor and to secrete peak levels of oxytocin, the hormone of love?

Studies have shown oxytocin’s role in reducing pain. For instance, Beverly Whipple, professor emeritus at Rutgers University and a famed author/ sexologist found that when women masturbate to orgasm, “the pain tolerance threshold and pain detection threshold increased significantly by 74.6 percent and 106.7 percent respectively.”

Furthermore in an interview with Wired magazine another colleague from Rutgers University psychology Professor Barry Komisaruk, said, “We’ve seen that there is a strong inhibition of the response to pain during orgasm.”

“What that leads us to think is there is some kind of very important interaction between the orgasmic experience and the pain experience.”

Do You Ever Want to Cry in Public? It’s Okay

Tuesday, January 14th, 2014

Do You Ever Want to Cry in Public? It's OkayI see women rushing for perfection and flawlessness all the time, but especially during important moments — like their child’s birthday — as they stress to get it all right.

What is that all about? Why do we feel a need to be perfect?

It’s so exhausting, and I say it’s time to enjoy life while openly embracing the state of being less than perfect.

See, as women, we have been conditioned to be brave and told we can’t show vulnerability or weakness. Maybe it’s finally time to let the world see us sweat, because hiding our feelings in case they offend someone is hardly satisfying.

We’re told that crying — and especially crying in public — is weak or wrong. But it’s not, and here’s why.

Navigating Relationships & Abandonment Fears: Losing Others, Losing Me

Sunday, January 12th, 2014

Navigating Relationships & Abandonment Fears: Losing Others, Losing MeAs I have struggled through some very dark days of trauma recovery, I have come to understand some universal laws that have helped make sense of my chaotic life. The most basic law is that the inner child will recreate the challenges of the childhood until the challenges are resolved. To the inner child, the perception of resolution may be very different from the adult’s logical brain.

But I have learned that the resolution can come in many forms.

For a sexual violence survivor, this law holds no more true than when navigating adult intimate relationships. Sometimes, this law is referred to as “women will always marry their father.”

But it manifests in other ways too. It would be easy to address if it weren’t happening unconsciously. Unfortunately, we rarely know we are recreating our childhood. In the case of memory repression, it is worse because we don’t remember the events we are recreating. Sounds like a losing battle, doesn’t it?

4 Winning Strategies to Foster Success in the Workplace

Thursday, January 9th, 2014

4 Winning Strategies to Foster Success in the WorkplaceAs an entrepreneur or professional, you face many fires that need to be put out every day, all the while doing your best work. Juggling the needs of your co-workers, boss, and yourself can often be a challenge, even on the best of days.

Whether you’re a professional working for a boss, or an entrepreneur working for yourself, there are strategies you can employ to make each day more successful. Below, Melody Wilding, LMSW, a therapist who works with young professionals and business owners, shares four winning strategies for fostering success in the workplace.

Surviving a Friendship Break Up

Thursday, January 9th, 2014

best friends

Best friends are meant to be forever, right? Men come and go but our girlfriends …

Perimenopause & Depression

Tuesday, January 7th, 2014

Perimenopause & Depression Research suggests, especially in women with a history of depression or susceptibility to a mood disorder, that reproduction-related hormonal changes raise the risk of depressive episodes.

A few recent studies have concentrated on the perimenopausal period (when women experience skipped and irregular periods), in particular, and found that women in the menopausal transition were up to three times more likely than premenopausal women to report depressive symptoms.

Let’s take a closer look at perimenopause and depression.

Self-Care Strategies for Busy Moms

Sunday, January 5th, 2014

Self-Care Strategies for Busy Moms	When you’re a mom of young kids, it’s hard to find the time and energy to take care of yourself. You’re too busy focusing on your children’s physical and emotional needs, said Diane Sanford, Ph.D, a psychologist who specializes in maternal and child health in St. Louis, Mo.

Even more so, your relationship with your child isn’t just symbiotic; it’s parasitic, according to Ashley Eder, LPC, a psychotherapist in Boulder, Colo. That’s because it isn’t a mutual relationship.

“Yes, your children are — adorable [and] beloved — parasites, and you are the host, and that’s normal and healthy.”

But it’s also demanding and exhausting. Yet you might feel guilty or selfish for even thinking about your own needs. But, as Eder said, “the survival of a parasite is dependent upon the health of the host.”

So what can you do to help reduce your exhaustion and take better care of yourself?

7 Tips for Sharing Your Pregnancy with Friends Coping with Infertility

Sunday, December 29th, 2013

7 Tips for Sharing Your Pregnancy with Friends Coping with InfertilityTelling people that you are expecting a new family member is one of the exciting things you get to do when you’re early in your pregnancy. When you announce your pregnancy to family and friends, you expect people to jump up and down, to drench you in love, hoorays, and congratulations.

However, if you have friends or family members that are suffering with infertility, there is a good chance that your pregnancy announcement will be a gigantic, painful blow to them.

It’s not that they are angry with you or not happy for you. But when someone is dealing with infertility, every pregnancy announcement reminds them of what they don’t have.

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