General

Success Tips for Later-in-Life Marriages

“So what’s the secret for a good marriage?” asked my friend Ellen, who’s seventy-two. She’s stayed unmarried since her early twenties, when she divorced her physically abusive ex-husband.

“Choose wisely and learn what it takes to succeed in marriage,” I answered instinctively.

While this advice applies to people of all ages, it’s helpful to recognize special challenges of later-in-life marriages so we can deal with them constructively. The three to be addressed here involve money, sex, and “unfinished business.”
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Anxiety and Panic

How Postpartum Depression is Different from Baby Blues

Today, even though we’ve made much progress, postpartum depression (PPD) still gets confused with baby blues. It still gets minimized and dismissed.

Oh, don’t worry. Being sad and sobbing are totally normal. So is feeling frustrated. You just gave birth, after all. You just need some sleep. A day off. A change in attitude. Maybe you should stop putting so much pressure on yourself. Maybe you’re not used to being home so much. You need time to adjust. You need to get used to your new normal. That’s all.

Maybe someone told you these words -- with kind and good intentions. Or maybe you’ve said these words to yourself. Either way, there’s a lot of misinformation about PPD and how it manifests. For starters, PPD is different from baby blues.
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Anxiety and Panic

4 Things I Learned in Trauma Group Therapy

I never wanted to go to group therapy, especially for my trauma history. Child sexual abuse didn’t seem like something I was ready to share with a group of people, even if they had walked a mile in my shoes. As long as I didn’t reveal my dark secret to anyone else, they saw a normal woman before them. If they learned I was abused, I thought for sure they’d see me as some kind of festering wound on society, a reminder that there are perverts among us, operating beneath the otherwise cheerful and wholesome social world.

I'm sensitive about my faults. In fact, I'm sensitive about everything. I didn’t want to take what I considered to be by far the ugliest thing about me to a group of strangers on a weekly basis as if to say, “Here it is again!”

Sadly, I never considered the fact that I didn’t feel that way about other people who had been abused. Why would I ever imagine they’d feel that way about me?
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Books

10 Books on Happiness & Success for Your Reading List

Being an entrepreneur is stressful work. You pour blood, sweat, and tears into making your business work. Even though it can test you down to your last nerve, there’s nothing more rewarding than starting your own company.

While it can be challenging to successfully balance your workload plus family, friends, fitness and some personal time, there are few things that rings true for most successful entrepreneurs. It’s their unwavering commitment to continuous self-improvement in all areas of their life from their business prowess to their personal relationships.
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General

Is Your Attitude about Money Hurting Your Relationship?

Money can be a sensitive topic in dating and marriage. Often cited as a cause of divorce, a conflict about money is usually a symptom of something else. Often the real issue is a lack of constructive communication by partners about what’s important to each of them.

Depending on who you are, talking about money with a partner may be taboo, acceptable, or somewhere in between. In many cultures and families, it is not okay to talk about money. In others, it’s fine to speak openly about it. Regardless of which category you fit into, understanding the source of your attitude can help you address money related concerns more successfully.    
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College

How to Get Comfortable with Change & Fear of the Unknown in Your Career

It’s natural to desire a clear direction and sense of control in our careers. After all, the unknown can be intimidating, especially when it comes to your professional future.

But while it’s certainly comforting to have specific instructions provided at work, a fixation on structure and a constant need for direction can limit your potential. Fear of the unknown can prevent you from taking risks that could elevate your success, such as pitching an innovative idea for a new project or
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Inspiration & Hope

3 Ways Confident Women Take On the World


Stop making your life so miserable.

I don’t know any woman who doesn’t want to feel successful in her life -- be it work, relationships, finances, family, etc. But often, the very pursuit of that success makes us, as women, feel miserable. Why?

Perhaps we’re never satisfied with what we have in life because we’re too busy defining "success" by someone else’s standards... instead of our own!

Women are sometimes ruthless in their judgment of each other, only validating someone else’s success if it validates our own -- breastfeeding moms against non, working moms against stay-at-home moms, married women against single women, women with children against women without children, etc.
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Anxiety and Panic

For Those in Despair: You Are Not Alone

Whenever we’re struggling with something, we assume we are alone. We are the only ones. I’m the only one who can’t get through the day without crying. I’m the only one with sweaty palms and terror swirling through my body while grocery shopping. I’m the only one who isn’t blissed out after having a baby. I’m the only one who can’t shake this all-consuming sorrow or rage. I’m the only one who can’t sit still. Who can’t stomach myself.  

But you’re not alone. You’re not alone in your confusing emotions, dark thoughts and daily struggles. You are one of hundreds, of thousands and even of millions. Two recently published essay collections remind us of this. They remind us that while our stories may be unique, the themes are not. We are connected. And there is hope.
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General

The 2 Questions that Could Save Your Relationship

Many of us believe that shoring up a declining relationship requires substantial effort. While this is often true -- especially if a betrayal of trust has occurred -- most relationships can be greatly improved by posing two simple questions to your partner.

These questions work because they address the two most important aspects of relationship health -- understanding one another and caring about one another.
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Creativity

5 Tips to Manage Stress When Work Is Crazy Busy

We’ve all been there: a big project comes up that’s super important to your company (and your career), and it quickly becomes an all-hands-on-deck situation. Work shifts to priority number one, leaving everything else in your life to fall by the wayside.

Suddenly, you’re clocking 12 hours at the office every day, responding to emails from home at all hours of the night, and fighting off the million to-dos running through your head to catch a few precious hours of sleep. Your exercise consists of sprinting between your desk and the printer, and you can’t remember the last time you ate something that didn’t come out of a package.
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Celebrities

Create Your Own Definition of Beauty

Today, profoundly albeit subtly, the paradigm surrounding cosmetics has made many women want to attain looks similar to the celebrities they see on television and in movies. And women need not look too far, for with the parallel development of cosmetics and plastic surgery, these desires are readily brought into the realm of possibility.

This may seem like a non-issue, except it begs the question: How does this affect individualism? Quite clearly, individualism faces a very real threat. For this reason, we are in dire need of women brave enough to challenge the norm and redefine their own brand of beauty.
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