General

Can a Good Marriage Have Problems?

If your partner says, “We have a problem,” does your chest tighten? Do you forget to breathe? What goes through your mind? “A problem! Aggh! Does that mean he (or she) will leave me? Is our relationship doomed?” Do you imagine that something is terribly wrong with the two of you as a couple and maybe impossible to fix? If this sounds like you, you are probably being duped by a harmful marriage myth: A good marriage has no problems.

Conflict exists in any marriage. Our challenge is to deal with differences constructively.

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ADHD and ADD

Psychology Around the Net: August 8, 2015


Happy Saturday, Psych Central readers!

This week's Psychology Around the Net covers everything from ways to beat anxiety at work to learning how you can stop denying yourself happiness -- and much more.

25 People Told Us What Relieves Their Anxiety at Work: Anxiety sufferers can agree the condition harms both our relationships with co-workers and our performance. Would any of these tips help you get a handle on your anxiety at work?

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General

Great Relationships Embrace ‘We Time’ and ‘Me Time’

While still single, Emily discovered something important about marriage. She had heard the part about two becoming one. The eye-opener for her was learning how to remain a vibrant individual while being a relationship partner.

When she wasn’t involved with a man, Emily spent her free time skiing, playing tennis, taking an art class, or relaxing at a beach. She joined women friends for dinner, a movie, or a play. She was happy.

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General

Psychological Challenges of Feminism — in Dating and Marriage

Betty Friedan’s book, The Feminine Mystique, published in 1963, exposed the misery of well-educated suburban housewives and catalyzed the women’s liberation movement.

In the 1970s, feminism confused me. Who should pay on dates? Should men still open doors for women? The guys were perplexed, too. Some feared that women would resent them for being courteous, chide them for being a “male chauvinist pig.” Feminists sported T-shirts proclaiming: “A Woman Needs a Man like a Fish Needs a Bicycle.”
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General

Tips to Restore Sexual Intimacy

What if you want sex more often than your mate? Or vice versa? Too often the “deprived” partner will blame the other. Don’t make this mistake. By calling your beloved selfish, cold, or frigid, you will only make things worse.

Pretending that no problem exists also will hurt your relationship. It is much more helpful to recognize your feelings and express yourself constructively.
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Depression

Stuck on Negative: How to Be Gentle with Your Depression

Is it what we pay attention to in life that makes us depressed? Is that why we relapse?

A new study from Binghamton University found that participants with a history of depression were more likely to have a recurrence of depression depending on what type of facial expressions they attended to more. The study published in the journal Clinical Psychological Science examined responses from 160 women. Researchers showed them a series of two faces -- one with a neutral expression and the other with either an angry, sad or happy expression -- and tracked the participants' eyes to see which image they paid closer attention to. Participants with a history of depression who paid closer attention to the angry faces had the greatest risk for developing depression again in the next two years.

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Brain and Behavior

3 Lessons about Psychological Well-Being from a Social Media Tsunami: Professor Holding a Baby

In the past few weeks I have been swept up in a social media tsunami. A photograph of me holding a baby while lecturing, taken without my knowledge in one of my lectures, went viral.

For those knowledgeable about these things, apparently being number one on BuzzFeed Trending and Facebook Trending is “huge.” The frenzy included mainstream media with articles and interviews appearing in the Washington Post, The Guardian and The Independent, as well as on CNN, Canadian television, BBC Radio 5, South African radio and the list goes on and on. On one site alone the photo received more than one million likes.

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Depression

After the Storm Passes

For some reason, I found myself in my feelings last night again. It seemed to just hit me all of a sudden. I have learned to expect moments such as these. They pop up and leave just as quickly as they arrive. In the past, I was once afraid to acknowledge these occurrences because of the Get Over It Movement.

There is a tendency for some to encourage others not to experience these feelings but reject or ignore them as if to do so were taboo. Honestly, I find myself taking it personally. Every day, I have to constantly remind people that it is okay to still feel hurt and experience pain from time to time. It is an aspect of their humanity and no one has a right to place a timeline on their healing process.

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ADHD and ADD

5 Foolproof Tips to Overcome Procrastination

If you’re like me, you have a growing to-do list filled with big ideas to accomplish. Yet day after day, life gets in the way and our passion project falls by the wayside.

We make excuses like “I’ll do it tomorrow” or “I’m not in the mindset right now”, waiting for the perfect moment of inspiration to suddenly strike. The funny thing is that “perfect moment” doesn’t actually exist.
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