Women’s Issues Articles

Meeting Strangers: How Passing Connections Enrich Our Lives

Wednesday, March 26th, 2014

Connecting with StrangersA few weeks ago, my friend and I spent Friday night at the local bar, with one premise in mind: we wanted simply to meet and converse with our fellow humans. (Since I’m in my 20s and no longer in school, opportunities for meeting new people are a bit limited.)

I discovered that one guy, let’s call him John, works a corporate job but paints on the side, and I found out that his brother teaches English and loves the performing arts scene. They came out to celebrate and toast their friend, who just became a real, live lawyer.

The Psychology of Addictive Relationships

Monday, March 24th, 2014

The Psychology of Addictive RelationshipsLove addicts often have the best intentions. They desire to have happy, healthy relationships. However, underneath these good intentions lies a covert struggle with intimacy. With sex and love addiction, there is always a hidden agenda to get needs met that are based in feelings of insecurity.

When there is dysfunction in the family of origin, love objects are unconsciously sought out with the goal of replaying unfinished business from childhood.

It is not always a relationship with a parent that we are repeating; it can be a relationship with any family member that is unresolved. Mourning childhood losses and allowing oneself to process the pain of past hurt sets us free to select more positive relationships.

Why Men Don’t Ask for Directions

Sunday, March 23rd, 2014

Why Men Don't Ask for DirectionsWomen often find the male mind hard to understand. Why can’t men ask for directions when they are lost? Why can’t they read an instructional manual when they don’t know how to do something? Why can’t they pore over a self-help book on relationships when it can help them enhance their skills?

An old adage is that women are emotional and men are logical.

So how come men don’t operate rationally when they don’t know something?

How to Get Over a Verbally Abusive Relationship

Friday, March 21st, 2014

How to Get Over a Verbally Abusive RelationshipWhen a destructive, verbally abusive relationship ends, it’s normal to feel a host of conflicting and unresolved emotions.

Verbally abusive relationships can destroy your heart and soul and make you feel like a completely changed person. The recovery process takes time, support from others, patience and self-love — but you can get through it and emerge stronger, happier and healthier than you were before.

Cut All Ties with Your Ex

People who have ended abusive relationships often feel the need to contact their former partners. On some level, you know that you shouldn’t have any contact, yet you might feel compelled to show your ex that you’re better off — or you may feel the need to offer forgiveness. Yet it’s vital to cut off all contact.

When You Lose Your Patience: Sitting on a Ticking Time Bomb

Friday, February 28th, 2014

When You Lose Your Patience: Sitting on a Ticking Time BombIt’s often believed that a major uproar between husband and wife must be triggered by a huge act of betrayal. “You did what?! How could you?!” However, this is not the typical scenario.

More often, a major uproar is triggered by someone sitting on a ticking time bomb of emotions. “You left a mess and expected me to clean it up again?” “I told you it’s important that we leave on time; aren’t you ready yet???”

A ticking time bomb detonates with only the slightest provocation. It may appear to come from nowhere, but if you’d been aware of the bubbles brewing underneath the surface, you’d understand the reaction.

Does that Cat Bite Mean You Also Have Depression?

Monday, February 24th, 2014

Does that Cat Bite Mean You Also Have Depression?

Why do people who have cats also seem to be more likely to have depression? Is it because cats are more likely to bite a depressed person? Or is it because of some sort of toxic parasite?

Perhaps because depressed people like cats. Or cats and dogs. Or maybe, really, there’s no link there at all.

But don’t worry… We researchers will describe data and make suppositions that don’t take into account the most obvious of explanation of them all.

Disclosure in the Workplace: An Interview with Lisa Clark Keith

Tuesday, February 18th, 2014

Disclosure in the Workplace: An Interview with Lisa Clark KeithShould someone with a mood disorder disclose her condition to her manager or anyone with whom she works?

After more than twenty years in the professional world, having worked a variety of occupations in different kinds of settings, I still don’t know the answer to that. I experienced thick stigma and shame when I disclosed my bipolar disorder; however, I also received support that I wouldn’t have if I’d kept everything to myself.

For her doctoral dissertation in psychology, professor Lisa Clark Keith interviewed five women with mental illness who disclosed their conditions in their workplaces. What did she learn?

Beware of She-Wolves

Tuesday, February 11th, 2014

Beware of She-Wolves

A woman becomes a she-wolf out of necessity to survive in the relational jungle of life. She feels that there is no other way to make it through life successfully.

These women are not born that way and may have once been among the kindest of women. It took one or more major wounds to make her vicious.

Anyone who has dealt with a wounded, bitter, and angry woman knows quite well how much harm she can inflict, especially to men.

This is a she-wolf.

7 Steps to Surviving Job Loss

Tuesday, February 11th, 2014

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Losing your job hurts.

Companies use fancy terms to describe it – downsizing, reorganization, consolidation, …

Romantic Gestures: Is There a Double Standard?

Tuesday, February 4th, 2014

Romantic Gestures: Is There a Double Standard?When men attempt bold gestures, generally it’s considered romantic. When women do it, it’s often considered desperate or psycho.
~ Carrie Bradshaw (Sex & The City)

In Nicholas Sparks’s The Notebook, we see Noah carelessly hanging from a carnival Ferris wheel. He hopes that his bold gesture will be perceived as daring and romantic, and will therefore solidify a date with Allie, the girl he absolutely had to pursue.

Now, of course that’s an extreme scenario (albeit a fictional one), but that pivotal scene always had me wondering what would have happened if the roles were reversed.

If a girl decided to act in a similar manner, would that be seen (in societal terms) as persistent and vulnerable, with shades of romanticism? Or would she be dubbed as ‘crazy,’ or ‘psychotic?’ My personal opinion is that it’s typically the latter.

Maybe You Should Make a Relationship Resolution

Monday, January 27th, 2014

Maybe You Should Make a Relationship ResolutionAt the beginning of every year, millions of people make New Year’s resolutions — everything from losing weight to saving money or spending more time with their families. Unfortunately, these resolutions often are forgotten by February.

However, there is one resolution that’s rarely heard: “Let’s work on our relationship.”

Understanding Oxytocin, the ‘Love Hormone,’ & Its Effects on Pain

Friday, January 24th, 2014

Understanding Oxytocin, the 'Love Hormone,' & Its Effects on PainWhat occurs when we defy the body’s natural ability to begin the process of labor and to secrete peak levels of oxytocin, the hormone of love?

Studies have shown oxytocin’s role in reducing pain. For instance, Beverly Whipple, professor emeritus at Rutgers University and a famed author/ sexologist found that when women masturbate to orgasm, “the pain tolerance threshold and pain detection threshold increased significantly by 74.6 percent and 106.7 percent respectively.”

Furthermore in an interview with Wired magazine another colleague from Rutgers University psychology Professor Barry Komisaruk, said, “We’ve seen that there is a strong inhibition of the response to pain during orgasm.”

“What that leads us to think is there is some kind of very important interaction between the orgasmic experience and the pain experience.”

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