College

4 Times You Should Say No to Additional Responsibilities at Work

Think about your average work week: How many of your daily tasks fit into the original job description you were hired to do? Chances are that, over time, out of an eagerness to prove yourself, you’ve taken on a number of responsibilities that fall well outside the realm of your core role. But how much of this newfound accountability is contributing to your professional advancement -- and how much of it is just running you ragged?

Top performers can be a prime target for additional requests because they enjoy challenge and frequently seek out new ways to demonstrate their skills. But do you find yourself saying yes every time your boss asks you to take a stab at a project that’s in no way related to your core competencies simply because you want to look like a team player?
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College

How to Get Over Your Fear of Talking about Money (And Get the Pay Raise You Deserve)


Talking about money can be difficult, even scary. It’s a topic that makes many people feel uncomfortable. Whether you’re negotiating higher pay in response to a new job offer or vying for a promotion in your current role, discussing salary is downright stressful.

You’re afraid of getting turned down, making things awkward, or even offending your manager. So, you make excuses as a way to sidestep the conversation. You tone down your requests -- or worse, you don’t...
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Caregivers

The Embodiment of Motherhood

As my tired eyes squint from the harshness of a brightly lit grocery store, my gaze follows all different types of mothers: young and old, frazzled and worn, rested and carefully put together. These are your average, run-of-the-mill mothers, standing impatiently at the grocery store with newborns in baby carriers and a toddler navigating an iPad with impish delight.

As my gaze slides to the scuffed tile and lands upon my feet, I have an epiphany. It is a realization that I am not only one of these mothers, I am the embodiment of all these mothers. I never thought I would even partake in motherhood, let alone have it embody my entire life.

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Children and Teens

5 Self-Care Tips for New Moms

When you’re a new mom, your self-care routine may seem like a distant memory. A very distant memory. After all, how are you supposed to care for your needs when your baby requires your attention 24/7? How are you supposed to care for your needs when you’re consumed with brand-new tasks, such as changing diapers and breast- or bottle-feeding?

Plus, often you don’t have any guidance or “policies and procedures” on how to do things, said Catherine O’Brien, MA, LMFT, a relationship therapist who specializes in helping families prepare for the transition from pregnancy to parenthood by managing overwhelm, creating more ease and deepening connection.
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General

How to Love Your Partner When They’re the Least Lovable


Last week I walked in my front door after a long day of seeing clients, arms full of groceries, and was welcomed by a barking dog, a kitchen full of dirty dishes, and my husband cheerfully waving “hello” to me from his comfy spot on the couch. My heart sank and my blood began to boil.

As I proceed to trip over the dog, kick her water bowl and spill it all over, and drop a bag of groceries, praying the eggs didn’t break, all I could muster was a sharp, “Umm, could I get some help, here?” To which my husband responded with a bubbly, “Ya, hold on, let me finish watching this (YouTube) video -- this is hilarious!”
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Anxiety and Panic

Psychology Around the Net: January 23, 2016


Happy Saturday, Psych Central readers!

I've been snowed in for the past few days and I have to admit, the extra time to really dive in and reflect gave me a hard time choosing from so many new and interesting psychology-related topics this week!

However, I managed, so now you can dive in and learn more about tackling mental illness stigma with social media, how a father's depression can affect premature birth, why learning how to properly feel emotions...
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Self-Esteem

6 Reflections Confident Women See When Looking in the Mirror


There's more to life than just being pretty.

Self-confidence strongly impacts women's happiness and sense of fulfillment in life. And our sense of confidence derives mostly from our beliefs and attitudes about ourselves and our life experiences.

When you look in the mirror, your inner beliefs color how you view your outer appearance.

The more authentically confident you feel inside, the more favorably you see yourself outside.

The question is, what makes some women more self-confident than others?

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Binge Eating

7 Surprising Quirks You Didn’t Know About Binge Eating

Binge eating disorder (BED) is one of the most common eating disorders, yet it wasn't included as an official diagnostic category until 2013, when the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, 5th Ed. (DSM-5) was published. Prior to 2013, it was listed simply as a diagnosis needing further study -- despite millions of Americans suffering from it. Binge eating is commonly defined as consuming a large amount of food in a short period of time, while experiencing a loss of control over eating.

What are some of the less commonly known quirks of binge eating disorder?

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General

3 New Year’s Resolutions You’re Going to Break — and How to Plan for Success Instead


The first days of the new year are always the same. You start off strong, a long list of resolutions planned, ready to conquer your career goals. And you do -- for a week, maybe two, or even a few months if you’re on a roll.

Then, something throws you off track. The culprit may be a seemingly insignificant workplace annoyance, but it has the power to affect your motivation in a big way.

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General

5 Ways Uncovering Your True Self Leads to Purpose and Real Connection

When I was a young tomboy I didn't think much about being a girl. I enjoyed kicking the ball as far as any boy. Until my sister asked, "When are you going to start being a girl?" I thought, "I am a girl. What are you talking about?" She told me girls do stuff like curl their hair, and I began thinking about how being a girl is so different from being a boy.

The pressure for girls to be pretty starts so young. It seemed that boys had a lot more fun. The unfairness of it struck me and my passion to empower women began to form.

I didn't want to be the girl who gets married and has children. I wanted to be a career woman. Of course there were other plans. I got married and had one daughter after another. That's when it became my mission and passion to find my voice so I could help my daughters -- and every other woman -- find hers.

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Anxiety and Panic

Psychology Around the Net: December 19, 2015


Happy Holiday, Psych Central readers!

OK, so we're technically still in the throes of the holiday season, for those of you who celebrate, but you won't get another Psychology Around the Net until after Christmas -- which means, you need lots of goodies to read until then, right?

Fortunately, we have them for you!

Keep reading to learn about how small talk helps us bond with others, the research related to mental health courts, the one trick to a happy and successful relationship, and more!

See you next week!

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Brain and Behavior

Exhausted Mothers, It’s Not Your Fault that You Feel Like This

I felt like that, too. I was head over heels in love with my daughters, but that didn't protect me. I had been so determined to be the best mother I could be that I dedicated myself to the job beyond reason and became exhausted and depleted in the process. I wondered if perhaps I was a bad mother. But actually, I am surprised nearly all mothers don’t suffer like this. Here's why it's not our fault.

Motherhood is tough
This is the hardest job I have ever had. Heaven and hell at the same time. Frequent interruptions, lack of control over the agenda, constantly switching tasks, too much to do, emotional outbursts, no holidays -- all when while I'm sleep-deprived.
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