Great Relationships Embrace ‘We Time’ and ‘Me Time’

While still single, Emily discovered something important about marriage. She had heard the part about two becoming one. The eye-opener for her was learning how to remain a vibrant individual while being a relationship partner.

When she wasn’t involved with a man, Emily spent her free time skiing, playing tennis, taking an art class, or relaxing at a beach. She joined women friends for dinner, a movie, or a play. She was happy.

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Psychological Challenges of Feminism — in Dating and Marriage

Betty Friedan’s book, The Feminine Mystique, published in 1963, exposed the misery of well-educated suburban housewives and catalyzed the women’s liberation movement.

In the 1970s, feminism confused me. Who should pay on dates? Should men still open doors for women? The guys were perplexed, too. Some feared that women would resent them for being courteous, chide them for being a “male chauvinist pig.” Feminists sported T-shirts proclaiming: “A Woman Needs a Man like a Fish Needs a Bicycle.”
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Tips to Restore Sexual Intimacy

What if you want sex more often than your mate? Or vice versa? Too often the “deprived” partner will blame the other. Don’t make this mistake. By calling your beloved selfish, cold, or frigid, you will only make things worse.

Pretending that no problem exists also will hurt your relationship. It is much more helpful to recognize your feelings and express yourself constructively.
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Stuck on Negative: How to Be Gentle with Your Depression

Is it what we pay attention to in life that makes us depressed? Is that why we relapse?

A new study from Binghamton University found that participants with a history of depression were more likely to have a recurrence of depression depending on what type of facial expressions they attended to more. The study published in the journal Clinical Psychological Science examined responses from 160 women. Researchers showed them a series of two faces -- one with a neutral expression and the other with either an angry, sad or happy expression -- and tracked the participants' eyes to see which image they paid closer attention to. Participants with a history of depression who paid closer attention to the angry faces had the greatest risk for developing depression again in the next two years.

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Brain and Behavior

3 Lessons about Psychological Well-Being from a Social Media Tsunami: Professor Holding a Baby

In the past few weeks I have been swept up in a social media tsunami. A photograph of me holding a baby while lecturing, taken without my knowledge in one of my lectures, went viral.

For those knowledgeable about these things, apparently being number one on BuzzFeed Trending and Facebook Trending is “huge.” The frenzy included mainstream media with articles and interviews appearing in the Washington Post, The Guardian and The Independent, as well as on CNN, Canadian television, BBC Radio 5, South African radio and the list goes on and on. On one site alone the photo received more than one million likes.

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After the Storm Passes

For some reason, I found myself in my feelings last night again. It seemed to just hit me all of a sudden. I have learned to expect moments such as these. They pop up and leave just as quickly as they arrive. In the past, I was once afraid to acknowledge these occurrences because of the Get Over It Movement.

There is a tendency for some to encourage others not to experience these feelings but reject or ignore them as if to do so were taboo. Honestly, I find myself taking it personally. Every day, I have to constantly remind people that it is okay to still feel hurt and experience pain from time to time. It is an aspect of their humanity and no one has a right to place a timeline on their healing process.

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5 Foolproof Tips to Overcome Procrastination

If you’re like me, you have a growing to-do list filled with big ideas to accomplish. Yet day after day, life gets in the way and our passion project falls by the wayside.

We make excuses like “I’ll do it tomorrow” or “I’m not in the mindset right now”, waiting for the perfect moment of inspiration to suddenly strike. The funny thing is that “perfect moment” doesn’t actually exist.
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Manage Your Dating Attitude Before It Manages You

If you’re a woman who’s been wanting marriage for a long time, and it hasn’t happened, possibly your attitude has been holding you back. Women in my "Marry with Confidence" workshops have expressed these attitudes:

All the good men are married.
There aren’t enough single men in my area.
Men my age want a much younger woman.
Men want a thinner woman.
I’m afraid of getting into a bad marriage.
I’m too flawed to create a good marriage.

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14 Powerful Questions to Find Happiness Workbook

What’s the first question exchanged when we meet someone new? You guessed it: “So… What do you do?”

In our culture, what you do for a living is inextricably tied to society’s perception of your worth. A stable job with a good salary is highly regarded, but we often look less lovingly upon the self-trained artist or entrepreneur who gives blood, sweat, and tears to make their vision possible.

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How a New Hobby Helped One Woman Leave an Abusive Relationship

I was 19, and I thought my love would change him.

I’m lying on the bed with my knees up, pushing him away with my feet.

Ross has the fishing knife at my throat. It has a bright orange handle, and has never been taken fishing. Once we took it camping and used it to shuck fresh oysters, but neither of us knew how. And we were too embarrassed to ask, so we smashed them.
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