It’s Okay to Be Angry, Unless You’re a Woman

During the recent Democratic presidential debate, Vermont Senator Bernie Sanders swiped a question originally directed at Hillary Clinton, saying, “The American people are sick and tired of hearing about your damn emails.” Imagine if Hillary had said that herself. They might be polling differently today.

Women who show anger aren’t taken as seriously as their male counterparts, according to a
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Improving Communication in Relationships

To paraphrase a realtor’s mantra, the three keys to a successful marriage are "communication, communication, and communication." Without good communication skills and quality time dedicated to communicating, relationships soon flounder and fail, especially among couples with the stress of careers and a full family life. Couples need to learn that their relationship is not a thing, but a process.

There are three basic steps to being a good listener and therefore a good communicator:

Stay on the subject.
Listen to be sure you are staying on the subject.
Adapt your behavior if you aren’t staying on the subject.

How can you keep healthy communication lines open? Recognize and implement these requirements:

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The Power of Relationship Assumptions

We all make relationship assumptions. We assume what another person is feeling or thinking. We assume how that person is going to respond to us. We create a story in our heads about how others see us, how they judge us or whether they like or care about us.

We make these assumptions all the time, but we don’t realize that they are assumptions. We treat them as absolute truth. We believe them without hesitation. We’re often wrong.

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3 More Tools and Tips for Navigating Stress When You’re Depressed

When you’re already depressed, stress only compounds your symptoms. Stress only boosts your anxiety and overwhelm, said Robin Starkey Harpster, MA, MFT, a psychotherapist who specializes in treating depression and anxiety in Los Angeles.

Many of Harpster’s clients are new moms struggling with postpartum depression. “Attempting to manage the needs of a newborn while you are depressed and overwhelmed is extremely difficult.”
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How to Take Work Home (The Healthy Way)

Let’s face it: The traditional 9-to-5 work lifestyle is long gone.

For many of us, it’s not unusual to stay at the office until 7 or 8, or to burn the midnight oil working on a freelance gig, startup idea, or extra project to get ahead at work.

Even if your company promotes a healthy work-life balance, your workload may get out-of-control at some point and you’ll simply need to bring work home in the evenings or over the weekend.

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Free Webinar: Stop the Chaos! Everyday Management Tips for Moms with ADHD

Join Psych Central host Zoë Kessler for a conversation with Terry Matlen, ACSW. Ms. Matlen is a psychotherapist, consultant, writer, and coach, specializing in women and moms with ADHD. Terry is the author of two books: "The Queen of Distraction” and "Survival Tips for Women with AD/HD" and is the founder of She also runs, an online coaching program for women with ADHD. A nationally-recognized expert and speaker on ADHD, she served for many years on the board of directors of ADDA (Attention Deficit Disorder Association).

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The Sneaky Way You’re Sabotaging Your Own Happiness (And How to Fix It)

You feel on top of the world, invincible, and light -- for about five minutes, until things start to go south.

You swear your boss has been looking at you funny for a few days in a row, your computer crashes just as you’re about to send in a report, you lock yourself out of your apartment, and you have one too many glasses of wine at the company happy hour.

So much for a few days ago, when you totally had your life together. Now you’re left wondering, “Where did that woman go and how do I get her back?”
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Do Unresolvable Conflicts Doom a Marriage?

Many people think that if a marriage is basically healthy all issues get resolved. Yet according to psychologist and author John Gottman’s research, 69 percent of problems in marriage do not get solved. (1)

His good news is that in good marriages many problems can be managed. Gottman states that couples can live with unresolvable conflicts about perpetual issues in their relationship if the issues are not dealbreakers.

Simply put, it is not the presence of conflict that stresses the relationship; it is the manner in which the couple responds. Positive, respectful communication about differences helps keep a marriage thriving.

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Talking with Children about Infidelity

The recent Ashley Madison hack exposed 32 million users for their involvement with the now-famous adultery-inspired dating site. It seems like a relevant time to discuss an issue that’s frequently shoved under the rug or ignored altogether. That issue involves children and marital infidelity. While spouses are obviously greatly affected by romantic affairs, psychologists argue that children may take the brunt of the blow.

If you’ve had an extramarital affair -- or your spouse has cheated on you -- there are obviously personal issues to sort through. In most cases, though, couples try to keep things under wraps and avoid telling friends and family members. However, what do you do with your own children?
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Anxiety and Panic

Psychology Around the Net: September 5, 2015

Happy September, Psych Central readers!

Our first Psychology Around the Net of the month covers habits to boost creativity, ways to deal with narcissists, how to protect yourself from negativity, and more.


6 Unusual Habits of Exceptionally Creative People: How early do you rise? Are you getting enough exercise? What about your schedule -- how strict is it? You might want to brush up on these tips and more to channel your own exceptional creativity.

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Brain and Behavior

3 Negative Thoughts Holding You Back from Negotiation Success

If you’ve successfully started your own business, decided to go freelance, or work at a startup, you’re used to rolling up your sleeves, working hard, and doing whatever it takes to get things done.
But when it comes to negotiating, do you still freeze up or freak out?
If you find it hard to approach investors, raise your rates, or talk about money and contracts in any way -- you’re not alone.
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