When you’re a mom of young kids, it’s hard to find the time and energy to take care of yourself. You’re too busy focusing on your children’s physical and emotional needs, said Diane Sanford, Ph.D, a psychologist who specializes in maternal and child health in St. Louis, Mo.
Even more so, your relationship with your child isn’t just symbiotic; it’s parasitic, according to Ashley Eder, LPC, a psychotherapist in Boulder, Colo. That’s because it isn’t a mutual relationship.
“Yes, your children are — adorable [and] beloved — parasites, and you are the host, and that’s normal and healthy.”
But it’s also demanding and exhausting. Yet you might feel guilty or selfish for even thinking about your own needs. But, as Eder said, “the survival of a parasite is dependent upon the health of the host.”
So what can you do to help reduce your exhaustion and take better care of yourself?