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How to Overcome Limiting Beliefs

Sunday, August 31st, 2014

meditation-yogaI have to earn my place here. Other people don’t struggle like I do. I should’ve figured this out by now. There’s something wrong with me.

Do these thoughts — or some version of them — swirl in your head? Do they consume you daily? Or arise whenever you try something new or make a mistake?

These thoughts are examples of limiting beliefs, according to Lea Seigen Shinraku, MFT, a therapist in private practice in San Francisco. Limiting beliefs derive from a variety of sources.

Life is Like a Game of Tetris

Friday, August 22nd, 2014

Life is Like a Game of TetrisI always loved the game of Tetris as a kid. I don’t allow myself the time to play it so much anymore, but maybe it would be a useful practice now and then. Tetris, while a game of speed and strategy, also teaches us acceptance, flexibility, and gratitude if we are open to learning.

There was nothing more satisfying than clearing four lines at a time. It was enough to bring jumping and shrieks of joy. It was even better when playing against someone else.

Hopeful Lessons from Robin Williams and Kurt Cobain

Tuesday, August 19th, 2014

Hopeful Lessons from Robin Williams and Kurt CobainI’m old enough to remember Kurt Cobain’s suicide in 1994, and what a major cultural and news event it was.

Although there have been other celebrity deaths in the years since, it’s only now with Robin Williams that a suicide has had as much attention and social magnitude.

The differences over time are striking. Social media has changed the nature of news as well as the conversation about news, and blogs make it easy for anyone to publish online what once might have been op-eds and letters to the editor in paper newspapers and magazines. Retweets and faves on @unsuicide reached an all-time high this week, with more people interested in both learning about and sharing information on suicide prevention. Mashable noticed a powerful and far-reaching positive change in the dialogue about suicide.

Adults with ADHD: Tips for Juggling Life in Today’s Frenetic World

Wednesday, July 30th, 2014

Adults with ADHD: Tips for Juggling Life in Today’s Frenetic WorldWe live in a wired, fast-paced world. We’re constantly plugged in — checking email and social media sites from all of our devices. We’re trying to meet ever-increasing expectations and demands, juggling careers and school, raising kids, managing our homes, entertaining, and much more, says Terry Matlen, MSW, ACSW, a psychotherapist and ADHD coach.

“For the adult without ADD, it’s a tough situation to keep their heads above water. But for an adult with ADHD, it’s almost an impossible task.”

“The brain can just ‘shut down’ due to feeling overwhelmed,” said Stephanie Sarkis, Ph.D, NCC, a psychotherapist and ADHD specialist. Adults with ADHD can become paralyzed because they don’t know where to start, she said.

Help Support TILT Magazine

Sunday, July 13th, 2014

Help Support TILT MagazineA longtime colleague of mine, DeeAnna Nagel, has asked for my help, and I’m glad to oblige. She and co-founder Kate Anthony started a beautifully produced publication called TILT Magazine to help mental health professionals and students better understand how technology impacts their profession. Where does a therapist go to learn about online interventions? How is cyberculture impacting the way people get help for a mental health issue?

Now they need your help in crowdfunding the continued production of the magazine through 2015 — and I hope you’ll take a moment to consider their plea.

How Throwback Thursday Benefits Our Psychological Well-Being

Thursday, July 3rd, 2014

How Throwback Thursday Benefits Our Psychological Well-Being So take the photographs and still frames in your mind. Hang it on a shelf in good health and good time. ~ Green Day

If you frequent any social media site, you probably have noticed the trend to post old pictures of yourself every Thursday. The trend of Throwback Thursday (or #TBT if you are so inclined) has certainly grown in popularity. It has become a time to visit times gone by and share memories with friends, old and new. We enjoy referencing the past, and we can have a good laugh at our clothes and hair back then.

Throwback Thursday is great for a laugh or a clever profile picture, but can it actually foster our psychological well-being?

How Facebook’s Squishy Ethics Got Them Into Trouble

Tuesday, July 1st, 2014

How Facebook's Squishy Ethics Got Them Into TroubleAh, how quickly folks backpedal when they’re caught doing something a little less than transparent. And perhaps something a little bit… squishy, ethics-wise.

That’s what Facebook “data scientist” Adam D.I. Kramer was doing on Sunday, when he posted a status update to his own Facebook page trying to explain why Facebook ran a bad experiment and manipulated — more than usual — what people saw in their news feed.

For some Tuesday-morning humor, let’s take a look at what Kramer said on Sunday, versus what he wrote in the study.

Emotional Contagion on Facebook? More Like Bad Research Methods

Monday, June 23rd, 2014

Emotional Contagion on Facebook? More Like Bad Research MethodsA study (Kramer et al., 2014) was recently published that showed something astonishing — people altered their emotions and moods based upon the presence or absence of other people’s positive (and negative) moods, as expressed on Facebook status updates. The researchers called this effect an “emotional contagion,” because they purported to show that our friends’ words on our Facebook news feed directly affected our own mood.

Nevermind that the researchers never actually measured anyone’s mood.

And nevermind that the study has a fatal flaw. One that other research has also overlooked — making all these researchers’ findings a bit suspect.

The Role of Connection in “Her”

Wednesday, June 18th, 2014

The Role of Connection in "Her"Spike Jonze’s “Her” made its debut in theaters last year. This refreshing and bold narrative emphasizes how connection unfolds in a society where technological advancement can potentially substitute substantial and tangible human contact.

Set in Los Angeles in the near future, “Her” features Theodore Twombly — a kind, lonely and introverted man who’s trying to navigate through the heartache of his recently failed marriage. (I personally found him to be an endearing character who warrants lots of hugs.)

The Healing Power of Animals in Our Age of Technology

Wednesday, June 18th, 2014

The Healing Power of Animals in Our Age of TechnologyI think I could turn and live with animals, they’re so placid and self-contained,
I stand and look at them long and long.

~ Walt Whitman (1819-1892), Song of Myself, 32

Our bodies and brains are drowning in technology. Hunching behind computer screens and peering at our cells, we are lured by an electronic siren that is steering us into emails, texts, and social media sites on a constant, seven-day a week basis.

How to Find Your Teachers: Listen to the World Around You

Tuesday, June 17th, 2014

sunset ocean meditation

“I would sit,” she offered unapologetically, “uncomfortable in my own skin, and think to myself that it would be worth the suffering because when I finished, I’d be happy. Like I was going to get this reward for suffering through it, for being tough and pushing through it. That’s what I thought meditation was. But I wasn’t really listening.”

These words from an absolute stranger, as I sat across from her on a hard metal stool at a cramped charging station in a somewhat undiscovered corner of a very busy LAX.

When Depression Lies & You Feel Like a Failure

Tuesday, June 17th, 2014

When Depression Lies & You Feel Like a Failure

Anybody who’s grappled with depression knows this: depression lies (or hashtag #depressionlies if you prefer). It tells us the sweet, seductive story that our life is bleak, without hope and therefore, without meaning.

But perhaps nobody knows this more than people who head up a company and are responsible for the livelihoods (and in some cases, the very lives) of their staff and employees. They feel the burden of responsibility even more if they have investors, advisers and bankers.

We know it because of highly-publicized suicides like Aaron Swartz and Jody Sherman — people who had bright futures, but couldn’t see them through the cloudy haze of the lies depression tells.

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